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Orange Is The New Black Writer Comes Out

May 23, 2014

Coming out is rarely easy.  It can be heartbreaking, quick, painful, weird, bizarrely funny or a long and drawn out process, but rarely do people describe the experience as easy.  And from the outside looking in, you might assume that being a writer for a show that’s the obsession of lesbians everywhere would make the whole thing a piece of cake.  Writer Lauren Morelli knows different.
In a happy and heterosexual relationship for six years, cemented with a marriage, it wasn’t until Lauren was working on Orange Is The New Black that she discovered her sexuality was a little different from what she thought.  In an essay for PolicyMic, Lauren describes her experience:
Five months after my wedding, I flew to New York to start production on my first episode of Orange, and from that moment on my life fell into a parallel rhythm with Piper’s story in a way that went from interesting to terrifying in a matter of months.
Many women experience coming out as a single person but going from a heterosexual marriage to being gay and single is a hard transition, as Lauren discovered.

Mourning the end of my marriage and the identity that I’d known for my entire life, I hadn’t yet stopped to consider that I was now a part of this community. I’d been qualifying my own gayness as if it somehow counted less or might be judged if I embraced it fully. After lugging around a basket full of shame and guilt for the last year, there was a lightness that came with realizing that I could choose to replace my negative framing with honesty and grace.
Now she’s out and happily living her life and maybe her story will strike a chord with you; check out the full essay here.

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