Tinder for Lesbians? A Comparison of Tinder vs. HER





    • Simple, modern interface


    • 50 million users worldwide


    • Free to use the basic app


    • Video chat


    • Made by Queers, for queers only


    • 8 million queer users worldwide


    • A queer community feature in the app


    • You can specify your gender identity, pronouns…



    • Focus at cis-gendered, heteronormative relationships


    • For those who identify as non-binary, there is a deep sense of discomfort when trying to choose how they want to be categorized. The same can be said for trans people


    • Unicorn-hunters


    • Focus on only selected markets like US, UK, France, Germany, Japan, Thailand, Spain, Brazil


    • Only a few languages supported


Not sure which platform is right for you? Well, let’s just put it this way… If you’re tired of inboxes full of men and unsolicited messages from couples, it’s time to join HER. Helping thousands of queer women find friendship and love, our inclusive space is fondly referred to as queer Tinder among the LGBTQ+ community.

The Struggles of Using Tinder for Lesbians & Queer Womxn

Everybody and their mother uses Tinder. It’s one of the most popular dating apps used for dates, hookups, and anything in between. But the truth is that the platform is geared toward straight people — and it feels anything but inclusive for queer people.

If you identify as a lesbian, bisexual, or trans person, your Tinder experience could be described as anything from unfriendly at best to hostile at worst. If you’ve ever seen their selection of gender and sexuality options, then you know how limiting the app is for the queer community.

For those who identify as non-binary, there is a deep sense of discomfort when trying to choose whether they want to be categorized under searches for men or women on apps geared toward traditional gender roles.

The same can be said for trans people on Tinder. Nobody should ever have to experience being unmatched, harassed, and threatened when they reveal they are a transgender person. Sadly, these experiences are the norm on other platforms like Bumble and Hinge as well.

Once you’re all set up and swiping through the Tinder app, it’s not hard to realize how many unwanted profiles of straight males there are. Yes, even if you have your searches filtered to “women only.” Some men even go as far as setting their gender to female to meet more women. Sorry sweetthang6969, but you’re not fooling anybody. And don’t even get us started on the dreaded “unicorn hunters,” AKA straight couples who are looking to hook up with a queer woman to fulfill some kind of fantasy. If that’s your thing, then by all means. If not, then it’s pretty common to experience harassment, bullying, and fetishization by straight men and couples on apps like Tinder. This just goes to show how necessary dating platforms aimed toward the LGBTQ+ community are.



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HER is here to connect queer women, non-binary, trans and gender non-confirming folks. We want to connect you to your person. A travel buddy, a friend in a new city or love for life.