Before changing anything, it’ll help to ask yourself one question: Does your profile still sound like you?
As time passes, interests shift and energy changes. What you want from dating evolves, and that’s totally natural. A profile refresh is a way to realign where you’re at, not reinvent who you are. It gives people a clearer sense of you, right now in the moment, and not a version from a different season of your life.
Your profile doesn’t need a major makeover. It just needs a small check-in with who you are right now.
Here are a few ways to approach refreshing your profile with intention, confidence, and curiosity.
Update your photos to reflect your real life
You don’t need a full photoshoot. What matters the most is that your photos feel current and honest.
Consider:
• Swapping in at least one photo from the last month to keep your profile honest
• Including a photo that shows you doing something you actually enjoy, whether that’s at your gaming station, a protest, or violin class
• Choosing images where you look comfortable and like yourself. You want folks to connect with the most authentic version you
Tip: If your photos feel like you and make you feel good, they are doing their job.
Tweak your bio, not your personality
Your bio doesn’t need to explain everything about you or your life all at once. It just needs to give someone a sense of how you move through the world and invite conversation and connections.
Try:
• Removing anything that no longer feels true
• Adding one or two details that reflect a recent interest or routine
• Writing the way you actually speak in convos, and not the way you think a perfect dating bio should sound
Tip: Specific details are more engaging than broad descriptions. Give ‘em something to chat you up about!
Add questions that feel natural
Good conversation starters make it easier for someone to reach out in a way that feels thoughtful instead of forced. HER gives you the option to add questions to get to know you better and give folks who swiped right something to connect with you over. The more about you that you share, the easier and breezier messaging will be!
Ideas include:
• A question about a topic you genuinely enjoy yapping about (maybe that’s the season that the Packers are having this year, maybe it’s the details of Ancient Greek art, whatever it is, let it shine through)
• A mention of a favorite local hot spot or recent experience that meant a lot to you (think a recent amazing concert, a coffee shop with the most incredible stuffed croissant, or that story from the club that you just would NOT believe)
• A small opinion that invites response (pineapple on pizza? Scar actually being the hero of Lion King? Oat milk being disgusting? A light-hearted exchange of opinions can be a great opener).
Tip: The goal is connection, not perfect job interview style formats or replies.
Highlight what you are excited about right now
You don’t need to list everything you like- hopefully, that list is way too long for your bio! Instead, focus on what currently holds most of your attention.
That could look like:
• A hobby you are getting back into (it’s okay to be a beginner, by the way. That sweater doesn’t need to look perfect to show off your new knitting skills!)
• A TV show that you’re enjoying
• How you like to spend your weekends (are you cozy in bed or jogging 10 miles a day? Either way, show them what makes you happy).
Tip: Allow yourself to change your interests, and remember that your profile can change with them.
Use features that show how you are feeling right now
Your profile doesn’t have to say everything at once. HER features like Feelings are designed to give people a quick vibe check on your energy, mood, and intention without overexplaining it.
They work best as a snapshot of where you are right now. Feelings last for 72 hours before they fade away, so you won’t be locked into your vibe forever.
Use them to:
• Signal your current dating energy
• Add dimension beyond photos and text
• Give someone an easy way to start a conversation
Tip: Updating how you are feeling is a simple way to keep your profile current without rewriting all the hard work you did on your profile every time that a mood hits a bit different.
Keep your vibe authentic
Refreshing your profile works best when it reflects you, not what you think will perform well. Forget the follower counts and the social media way of thinking and focus on those intentional matches with sapphics who really “get” you.
A few reminders:
• You do not need to appeal to everyone
• You’re allowed to move at your own pace
• Honesty leads to better connections
Your profile doesn’t have to be perfect to be effective. It just needs to be you.
Moving forward with intention
A refreshed profile is not a promise or a life strategy for 2026. It’s an invitation. It’s a way of saying you are here, present, and open to whatever comes your way next.
Whether you are re-entering dating or simply realigning your presence, small updates can make a meaningful difference.
And when you are ready to connect, HER is here for it. Built for sapphics who want dating to feel intentional, affirming, and reflective of who they are now.
