We know that it’s so important to find someone who is in the same place as you in life, and who shares your goals and interests: So we created a supportive app that now has millions of sapphics in our community representing mature lesbians, late bloomers, and everyone in between.
Our app even has a feature called Incognito Mode so that you can only be seen by the folks you want to see you, whenever you are ready. We are dedicated to keeping your space a safe one so that you can make meaningful lesbian & sapphic dating connections on HER.
With no shortage of people, your perfect match awaits.
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Does it feel like the already small pool of lesbians to date has only gotten smaller as we’ve gotten older and moved online? We got tired of seeing our incredible 40+ lesbian community pushed to the side. So, we created a safe space where more mature sapphics & LGBTQIA+ individuals can chat, connect, and just be their authentic selves, without having to be worried about feeling like they’re in the wrong place.
HER is the world’s largest (and not to toot our own horn, the best) dating and community-building platform for 40+ lesbians, mature sapphics, and senior LGBTQIA+ folks across the globe with over 15 million users in more than 114 countries.
Our sapphic & lesbian dating app allows you to customize every little aspect of your dating profile so the most authentic version of yourself can shine brightly from day one. Unlike the hetero focused mainstream apps, HER allows you to easily add what style of relationship you are searching for, the age demographic of your potential partners, and a whole bunch of other fun facts and pins to your profile that make you, well, you!
You’ll find a supportive community for 40+ sapphics & lesbians, where users can connect with understanding, non-judgmental folks who share similar experiences. Make outstanding personal connections, ask for advice, share memes, and be the wonderful you that you are, no matter where you are on your queer journey. Whether you’d like to know the secret to getting your tomatoes to grow perfectly, how you can get involved with local politics, or just want to share a laugh, our community is happy to deliver.
HER isn’t just that “app for lesbians”. We are so much more! Created by sapphics, for sapphics, HER is a game changing space that is inclusive to the LGBTQIA+ community and all of the colors of the rainbow within it. This includes the amazing mature lesbians & queer folks that helped to pave the way for where we are today!
We truly believe that every connection made on HER should be meaningful and fulfilling. We aren’t the app that’s made to be deleted. HER is the queer dating and community app made to help you find your soulmate, your queer chosen family, events that you can’t miss, and fun, genuine conversations that will make you want to stick around and make yourself at home sweet home.
With customizable profiles, you can express yourself authentically and showcase your identity, sexuality and interests with the pride pins feature, such as butch, femme, dyke, chapstick lesbian, & more!
At HER, we genuinely understand the needs of the 40+ lesbian community and we have built our app with those needs in mind. Our safety team actively monitors and intervenes to protect users from things like bullying, nudity, and disrespectful content, ensuring a respectful and safer environment for all. Join HER today and experience the difference for yourself! The app is free for iOS and Android.
“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”
“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for HER bringing us together.”
“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away…If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”
HER is so much more than just a mature lesbian dating app since we create a space for long-lasting connections – from dating to friendship to finding your forever person who understands and accepts you just the way you are (because you are seriously incredible).
With over 35 Community groups to choose from, HER offers a safe and supportive space for users to engage socially with fellow queer and gender non-conforming people without the intrusive hetero gaze found on other mainstream dating apps.
Whether you’re looking for 40+ lesbian & sapphic friendly events or advice on how to start dating women later in life, there’s always a conversation to be had that you can dive right into. Our in-app 40+ lesbian community alone has thousands of members and hundreds of posts every day from other queer people looking to connect, hang out, and get advice.
These communities are designed to be inclusive and accessible for all of the amazing members of our community. Our safety-led approach to content moderation on the app is even amped up with a team of moderators from a variety of age groups, locations, and walks of life keeping an eye on the content in that space.
Whether you are questioning your gender identity or you’ve never doubted it for a second, or even if it has evolved along with you, you are welcome here, and you belong. <3
HER is a welcoming space, no matter where you are on your journey. It’s not a problem at all if you were a late bloomer!
You’re in good company with us. Our 40+ lesbian community is filled with amazing folks who give great advice because they’ve been where you are before.
If you’re a little bit more apprehensive about queer dating- we get that too. We also having a Coming Out Advice community where you can seek wisdom and encouragement from other sapphics on how to navigate coming out and starting the queer dating experience.
There’s no wrong time to come out of the closet, and we are so happy that you’re a part of the community <3
We recommend joining at least our 40+ community! Each of our over 35 communities are 100% free to use.
Our 40+ community was created based on the feedback that mature lesbians wanted a place to call their own and get to know each other better, without sorting through younger profiles.
You can also adjust your age filters at any time to find matches that are more in line with what you’re looking for on the app.
