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Asexual dating and LGBTQIA+ Connections


Come and be a part of the world’s largest and most active community of asexual people and queer folks. Tired of the aphobia found in other groups? Us too. 

So we created a supportive app that now has millions of sapphics in our community representing all the identities of the acespec. Whether you identify as asexual, demisexual, aromantic, grey ace, or anything in between, you will find your ace community on HER.

We have a zero-tolerance policy for phobic content in the app, including aphobia. We are dedicated to keeping your ace space a safe one so that you can make meaningful asexual dating connections on HER.

15M+ MEMBERS AND GROWING

With no shortage of people, your perfect match awaits.

4.5 STARS ON THE APP STORE

Apple Editor’s Choice 2023, 2022, 2021, 2020, 2019

EMPOWERING COMMUNITIES

Join one of our vibrant 35+ LGBTQIA+ community groups.

CHAT WITH ASEXUALS NEAR YOU

Connect and chat with like-minded friends and partners in your area.

On HER, we understand you

No need to defend your asexuality here

How many swipes have you wasted on mainstream dating apps that only have the interests of allos in mind? We got tired of seeing our amazing asexual community pushed to the side. So, we created a safe space where asexual women and other LGBTQIA+ people can chat, let loose, and just be their authentic selves, without having to be asked “wait, really, so no sex like, ever?” for the ten thousandth time.

HER is the world’s largest (and dare we say the best?) dating and community-building platform for asexual, queer, demisexual, aromantic, sapphic, and gender-non-conforming folks worldwide. 

With over 15 million users in more than 114 countries, your perfect match — or your new best platonic friends — are only a few taps away. You can bet your garlic bread on it.

Our queer and asexual dating app allows you to customize every little aspect of your dating profile so the most authentic version of yourself can shine brightly from day one. Unlike the hetero and allo apps, HER allows you to easily add what style of relationship you are searching for, your sexual orientation, and a whole bunch of other fun facts and pins to your profile that make you, well, you! 

You’ll find a supportive community for asexual folks, where users can connect with understanding, non-judgmental people who share similar experiences and are also looking for meaningful relationships, easy on the hookups & thirst traps. We are here to help you find your person, whether they are a platonic bestie or the love of your life. 

Safely connect with other asexual people

The best asexual dating experience

HER isn’t just that hookup app. We are so much more! Created by sapphics, for sapphics, HER is a game changing space that is inclusive to the LGBTQIA+ community and all of the colors of the rainbow within it. 

We aren’t the app that’s made to be deleted. HER is the queer and asexual dating and community app made to help you find your person, your queer crew of friends, events that you can’t miss, and fun, genuine conversations that will make you want to stick around and make yourself at home sweet home. 

With customizable profiles, you can express yourself authentically and showcase your identity, sexuality and interests with the pride pins feature, such as asexual, queer person of color, butch, femme, stud and much more. 

But wait, there’s more! We have an amazing collection of over 35 in-app communities so that you can connect with other asexual people beyond the endless swiping. The community feed is a safe space where you can open up about your experiences, ask for advice about anything from asexuality to fashion advice, and even just trade and collect your best memes like Pokemon cards. 

We even have a dedicated community JUST for asexuals so that you can connect with other ace folks who get it without instantly asking for nudes or telling you that you just haven’t met the right sexual partner yet. (Ugh.)

At HER, we genuinely understand the needs of the ace community, and we have built our app with those needs in mind. Our safety team actively monitors and intervenes to protect users from aphobia, ensuring a respectful and safer environment for all. 

So, what are you waiting for? Join HER today and experience the difference for yourself! The app is available on iOS and Android for free.

We met on HER!

Isabel & Sable

“Sable and I were both sapphic aces looking for an ace partner, and ended up in the Her asexual group. I found her profile through someone else I’d friended, and we started talking daily about writing, shows, books, and board games. After 6 months of long distance dating, she came to visit me in FL and then moved down from PA. We are now engaged, living together, and still madly in love. I hope she’s a constant in my life for many years to come (and my wife next year).

Amanda & Rasheeda

“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for HER bringing us together.”

Chris & Stephanie

“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away…If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”

HER offers a safe, empowering space to meet ace people

Safe Asexual Dating

As a queer company, HER is all about safety! To ensure the well-being of our community, HER’s Trust and Safety team works tirelessly to improve our online safety measures.

Our Trust and Safety team includes world-class moderators who guarantee that everyone on HER is treated with respect. We have a firm no-discrimination policy, including suspending any users who share aphobic or bullying statements. We also don’t allow nudity anywhere on the app, regardless of gender, identity or expression. We don’t want to see XXX content either, and we work hard to keep the community clean.

Additionally, users can be verified and authenticated by linking their profile with an existing social media account before using the app.

In case you ever find something that makes you uncomfortable, from a user who is posting X-Rated selfies to the community feed to a user that is trying to convince you that asexuality isn’t even real, please flag or report it so that our team can investigate and remove any scammers, transphobes, or fake celebrity profiles from the app. We’ll always aim to get back to you within 24 hours!

Asexual Dating FAQ

Is there a dating site for asexuals?

To be honest,  not really! There are a few start-up apps with a really small amount of users, which means you’ll probably swipe through everyone in your area before the episode of BoJack Horseman that you’re watching is even over.

Not a problem with HER! With thousands of asexual members in our community, it won’t be long before you’re making connections on the app. Whether you’re looking for something completely platonic or someone to spend the rest of your life with, pretty soon you’ll be saying #WeMetOnHER.

What is asexual dating like?

Exhausting. Because so many misconceptions exist about what it means to be asexual, it can be really hard to find someone who “gets it”, or even someone who is willing to open their mind and heart up to learn about it before jumping to conclusions.

We created HER to side-step this fatigue of having the same ole same ole conversations on other hetero mainstream apps. With all the customizations available on profiles on the app, such as pride pins, fun facts, and a section that’s all about what you’re looking for, you can cut through all the empty small talk and boring matches and find the profile that makes you go WOW, this is the person that I need to swipe right on.

How do you date when you're asexual?

Asexuality just means that you have a lack of, or no, sexual attraction towards others, which means dating can look pretty typical! 

 

There are still the same nervous butterflies when you’re DMing someone for the first time and romantic outings at museums or coffee shops. It’s not very likely to end with hooking up at the end of the night though (although, some asexuals still have sex, and that’s totally okay, too).

It can be hard to find other asexuals when it comes to dating. It’s not always safe to be honest about who you are, and even if you’re being honest, folks might not really get it. 

HER is a safe LGBTQIA+ space where you never need to hide who you really are. We even have a pretty, shiny Asexual Pride Pin that you can wear with pride on your profile to yell out to the rest of the aces that you are ready to mingle!

Can you be asexual and still like kissing?

Absolutely! Kissing isn’t inherently sexual. This is just a personal preference that’s true for anyone, whether they’re asexual or not.

Some aces love kissing, some are fine with it, and some would rather not. It’s all up to the individual.

What dating app is best for asexuals?

Well, we hate to toot our own horn… Jk. *TOOT TOOT* 

HER is the largest and most inclusive ace app for sapphics. From our beautiful profiles that help you express yourself out loud to our supportive and caring Asexual Community, we’re a pretty cool place to make asexual connections. 

Unlike some apps that don’t address ace folks, or maybe just slap on “asexual” as an orientation choice with zero other thought behind it, HER proudly stands behind the ace community and works to cultivate meaningful relationships for whatever type of relationship you are looking for.