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Find Friendship and Love With Our Dating Site for Ace Women And Queer Folks

Have you ever tried to navigate Tinder as an ace person? If so, then you know most people on dating apps, particularly on those made by and for straight people, often expect sex to be a part of the equation with potential partners. Just when things are going well, at some point you’re bound to get to that awkward conversation about sexuality — or lack of it. The good news is, there is a new inclusive dating site created with ace folks in mind. HER is an app designed to provide a safe place for all women and queer people in the LGBTQIA community to find friendship and love.

Match and Chat with Asexual Women Online

Just because some of us have little or no sexual desire doesn’t mean that we have to rule out online dating — quite the opposite! Dating apps can give you the opportunity to meet other asexuals or ace-friendly people, whether you’re looking for friendship, companionship, community, romance or something more. You’d be surprised at how many other women and queer people are looking for love and friendship online without focusing on just having sex. Plus, it can be much easier, and sometimes safer, to be upfront and have an open conversation about being ace online than trying to shout it in a crowded bar or when you meet someone at a party.

On HER, you can match with other asexual and ace-friendly women from your city or thousands of miles away—the choice is yours. No more trying to awkwardly navigate the conversation and tiptoeing around the fact that you’re simply not interested in getting it on. You can find other women looking for the same thing and be open about both of your expectations and preferences from the start.

Above all, you don’t have to pretend to be something you’re not when you’re part of the HER community. Asexuality is an umbrella term and our inclusive dating site is full of queer folks on all ends of the spectrum. There are plenty of other people to match and chat with that are looking for the same things as you, even if it can feel impossible offline sometimes.

Personals: An Ace-Friendly Community Made for You

If you’ve ever spoken to non-asexual people about asexuality, you know it’s often misunderstood. It can feel isolating at times to have to validate our identity on apps that aren’t inclusive of ace folk. Choosing from a list of different sexualities — heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual — can be frustrating, not to mention misleading for potential matches. And why should we have to label ourselves as something that just doesn’t fit?

It’s time to ditch the non-inclusive apps and discover the ace-friendly community you’ve been looking for. You’ll find that chatting with other women and queer people who just get you is one of the best feelings in the world. After feeling misunderstood by the rest of society and even within the LGBTQ+ community, it can be incredibly liberating to be validated by other people who are looking for the same things. It’s an incredibly rewarding feeling to be understood by someone whose experiences and feelings are similar to yours.

Asexuality is real, valid, and a beautiful thing. Being ace means you get to set boundaries and define what a relationship means to you as an individual rather than conforming to what society says you should be. Being a proud member of the ace community can not only give you a sense of empowerment, but it also allows you to give a voice to others who are scared to speak out or may not yet understand their asexuality.

That’s exactly what our app is here for. Whether you’re looking for love, friendship, or simply just to be heard, there is an ace-friendly community made for you on HER. All forums and chats are moderated, so you’ll find nothing but open-minded and supportive LGBTQIA women and queer people to chat with.

Homoromantic vs. Aromantic: What’s the Difference?

We know that many identities fall under the ace spectrum and our team on HER strives to be inclusive of each of them. When you download the app, you can connect with asexual women of varying identities. You might find homoromantic ace women who feel romantic attraction strictly to other women while experiencing little to no sexual attraction regardless of gender. Whether you identify as purely asexual, gray-asexual, demisexual, or somewhere else on the spectrum, you are welcome here.

There are also plenty of aromantic ace women on the app who don’t experience romantic or sexual attraction to people of any gender. Most aromantic women are on HER seeking friendship with other ace-friendly women and queers. Regardless of what you’re looking for, everyone experiences their asexuality differently. Our mission is to help create a community that you can identify with, no matter where you fit on the spectrum.

ACE FAQ

I’m asexual, how do I meet other asexual singles?

On HER, you can match with other asexual and ace-friendly women from your city or thousands of miles away—the choice is yours. No more trying to awkwardly navigate the conversation and tiptoeing around the fact that you’re simply not interested in getting it on. You can find other women looking for the same thing and be open about both of your expectations and preferences from the start. Just because some of us have little or no sexual desire doesn’t mean that we have to rule out online dating — quite the opposite! Dating apps can give you the opportunity to meet other asexuals or ace-friendly people, whether you’re looking for friendship, companionship, community, romance or something more. You’d be surprised at how many other women and queer people are looking for love and friendship online without focusing on just having sex. Plus, it can be much easier, and sometimes safer, to be upfront and have an open conversation about being ace online than trying to shout it in a crowded bar or when you meet someone at a party.

How asexual people date? What about online dating?

Contrary to all the false information circling about asexuals, we date just like any other sexual orientation. Yes, we love. Yes, we show affection. Yes, we’re capable of having amazing relationships. There’s also several different variations of asexuals! There’s demisexuals (sexual attraction only after there’s an emotional connection), finsexual (attracted to femininity), minsexual (attracted to masculinity) and many other variations. Depending on which variation you are, dating might be very different to you. Online dating can be hard as an asexual person, especially when it comes to mainstream dating apps. Having to explain our sexuality constantly is never fun. The best part about HER is you won’t have to go through that endless conversation! We have plenty of ways for you to show exactly who you are. And there are plenty of queer women, nonbinaries, and asexuals to meet!

How do I explain my boundaries?

If you’ve ever spoken to non-asexual people about asexuality, you know it’s often misunderstood. It can feel isolating at times to have to validate our identity/boundaries on apps that aren’t inclusive of ace folk. Choosing from a list of different sexualities — heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual — can be frustrating, not to mention misleading for potential matches. And why should we have to label ourselves as something that just doesn’t fit?

 

It’s time to ditch the non-inclusive apps and discover the ace-friendly community you’ve been looking for. You’ll find that chatting with other women and queer people who just get you is one of the best feelings in the world. After feeling misunderstood by the rest of society and even within the LGBTQ+ community, it can be incredibly liberating to be validated by other people who are looking for the same things. It’s an incredibly rewarding feeling to be understood by someone whose experiences and feelings are similar to yours.

I just recently came out as asexual, is this app safe for somewhat closeted individuals?

Asexuality is real, valid, and a beautiful thing. Being ace means you get to set boundaries and define what a relationship means to you as an individual rather than conforming to what society says you should be. Being a proud member of the ace community can not only give you a sense of empowerment, but it also allows you to give a voice to others who are scared to speak out or may not yet understand their asexuality.

 

That’s exactly what our app is here for. Whether you’re looking for love, friendship, or simply just to be heard, there is an ace-friendly community made for you on HER. All forums and chats are moderated, so you’ll find nothing but open-minded and supportive LGBTQIA women and queer people to chat with. And if you’re worried about people you know finding you, there’s an option to go incognito where only people you like will be able to see you!

I identify as gray-asexual, am I represented too?

Whether you identify as purely asexual, gray-asexual, demisexual, or somewhere else on the spectrum, you are welcome here. We know that many identities fall under the ace spectrum and our team on HER strives to be inclusive of each of them. WE have specially made pride pins to explain exactly what you’re looking for, a long list of identities to help explain who you are (and if none of these identities properly explain YOU, there’s a custom option where you can identify yourself!). There’s many ways, options, and opportunities to express yourself and stay safe. 

Can you have a romantic relationship if you are asexual?

Asexual people typically have a lack of sexual interest or attraction but still desire romance. They still typically will feel romantic feelings toward others. If you’re aromantic, however, you may still desire sex but not have romantic feelings for others. The act may still be pleasurable but there’s no emotional connection to the other person.