Look, we are going to get right to the point. Other apps just aren’t designed with polyamorous dating in mind. So, we aimed to create the space that we wanted for ourselves- a place where polyamorous queer dating isn’t just accepted, but welcomed and supported.
We know that there’s so much more to dating than checking either “single” or “coupled”. We are amazing, complicated people. Shouldn’t your dating app be able to let you reflect all the delightful details that make you the incredible person that you are? So we created a supportive app that now has millions of sapphics & polyamorous daters in our community representing relationship styles in any way that you so desire.
Our app has a zero tolerance policy for disrespectful content in the app. This includes relationship shaming, fetishization, and unicorn hunting. We are dedicated to keeping your space a safe one so that you can make meaningful non-monogamous & polyamorous dating connections on HER.
With no shortage of people, your perfect match (or matches) awaits.
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Have you wasted an endless number of swipes on hetero apps on folks who just don’t understand what polyamory means? Or even worse, folks who just want to use it as an excuse to cheat, or to fetishize bisexuals? We got tired of seeing our incredible polyamorous queer community pushed to the side. So, we created a safe space where polyamorous people and other LGBTQIA+ individuals can chat, connect, and just be their authentic selves, without having to be told “love was only meant for two people” or “omg I could never share” for the 2348th time. You do you. We’ve got you.
HER is the world’s largest (and dare we say the best) dating and community-building platform for non-monogamous, polyamorous, open, sapphic, and queer folks across the globe with over 15 million users in more than 114 countries.
Your perfect match(es) — or your new chosen polyam fam — are only a few taps away. Welcome home. You’re valid, welcome, and we are so happy that you all are in our community.
Our sapphic and polyamorous dating app allows you to customize every little aspect of your dating profile so the most authentic version of yourself can shine brightly from day one. Unlike the hetero focused mainstream apps, HER allows you to easily add what style of relationship you are searching for, your sexual orientation, and a whole bunch of other fun facts and pins to your profile that make you, well, you!
You’ll find a supportive community for polyamorous people, where users can connect with understanding, non-judgmental folks who share similar experiences and relationship goals. Make outstanding personal connections, ask for advice, share memes, and just vibe with folks who get it.
HER isn’t just that “app for lesbians”. We are so much more! Created by sapphics, for sapphics, HER is a game changing space that is inclusive to the LGBTQIA+ community and all of the colors of the rainbow within it. This includes the amazing relationship styles that don’t fit inside the binary of traditional dating.
We truly believe that every connection made on HER should be meaningful and fulfilling. We aren’t the app that’s made to be deleted. HER is the queer dating and community app made to help you find new partners, your queer crew of friends, events that you can’t miss, and fun, genuine conversations that will make you want to stick around and make yourself at home sweet home.
With customizable profiles, you can express yourself authentically and showcase your identity, sexuality and interests with the pride pins feature, such as different love languages to help you better communicate your needs, kink-positivity, and more.
At HER, we genuinely understand the needs of the polyamorous community and we have built our app with those needs in mind. Our safety team actively monitors and intervenes to protect users from things like bullying, unicorn hunting, and disrespectful content, ensuring a respectful and safer environment for all.
Join HER today and experience the difference for yourself! The app is free for iOS and Android.
“I’ve seen her on HER for a while but never messaged her because she was married and in a Poly/Relationship Anarchy Situation and I prefer monogamous relationships. I did end up just hitting her up with a message just as a connection because she looked cool and I was curious and exploring relationship anarchy a bit. We hit it off pretty quickly, she divorced her partner and asked me to be monogamous, and we fellIn love. We’ve been seeing one another for 9 months and are Planning a future together.”
“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”
“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for HER bringing us together.”
“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away…If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”
HER is so much more than just a dating app. It’s where polyamorous individuals can create long-lasting connections – from dating to friendship to play partners to finding your polycule of amazing people who have the same intentions as you.
With over 35 Community groups to choose from, HER offers a safe and supportive space for users to engage socially with fellow queer and non-monogamous people without the intrusive hetero gaze & fetishized vibes found on other mainstream dating apps. Whether you’re looking for polyamory friendly events or advice on how to safely open up your relationship for the first time, there’s always a conversation to be had that you can jump into. Our in-app Non-Monogamous community alone has thousands of members and hundreds of posts every day from other polyam folks looking to connect, hang out, hook up,and get advice.
These communities are designed to be inclusive and accessible for all of the amazing members of our community. Our safety-led approach to content moderation on the app is even amped up with a team of both monogamous and polyamorous-identifying moderators keeping an eye on the content in that space.
Whether you are questioning on whether or not the polyam lifestyle is right for you or you’ve never doubted it for a second, or even if it has evolved along with you, you are welcome here, and you belong. <3
Is it conceited to answer with “on HER”? 💅 But seriously, online spaces are booming when it comes to polyamorous relationships and connections.
Digital connections make it easy to find exactly what you’re looking for- whether it’s a throuple, a cozy polycule, or something more.
If you’re in a major metro area, you might want to check out local kink spaces like dungeons, munches, or swing clubs. They’re also a good spot to blossom new polyam connections!
HER is the place to be if you’re polyamorous because, well, we get it! We have a community feed made specifically with polyam folks in mind to help you meet the right people for you faster.
We also host a number of events in house aimed at our amazing polyamorous community.
Whether you want to attend speed dating to meet new partners or join in an advice discussion on how to open up your relationship and start exploring, we’ve got you covered. The more, the merrier!
