Select your language

Search
English
Download HER

Safe
polyamorous
dating

Connect with open-minded people

HER is the go-to app for polyamorous sweeties looking for love! Don’t settle for conventional dating sites that don’t make the effort to understand your relationships. Join our inclusive community and find the partners, flings, and friends you’ve been dreaming of.

Download HER now to join communities and chat with other polyamorous people from all around the world!

Available on iOS and Android for free.

13 million+ queer folks

Find other people like you!

4.5 stars on iOS and Android

Featured on Apple Editor's Choice

Safe spaces & support

A dedicated trust and safety team is ready to assist you anytime

Queer conversation

Chat about your favorite things in more than 35 HER communities

Meet polyamorous people near you and worldwide!

The more you love, the merrier!

Are you tired of scrolling through dating apps and not finding anyone who’s on board with your lifestyle? Well, look no further, my love!

We know being polyamorous is a new subject to many people, and others simply don’t want to do their homework. That’s why HER is here to help you find all the partners, partners, and more partners you could ever dream of 💓 Here, you can join our in-app communities dedicated to being polyamorous and meet your soul mates in waiting (both platonic and romantic, btw).

Whether you’re looking to add a sweetheart to your polycule or explore new connections with others, HER is the place for you.

So, grab your partner (or partners) and get ready for a wild ride, honey! 😉

Find the love(s) you deserve

Unleash your true dating potential

Finding love and relationships can be a drag (and not even the fun kind with queens and glitter!), but for polyamorous folks, it can feel like an uphill battle. Traditional dating sites just don’t always cut it when it comes to meeting kindred spirits who understand and embrace polyamory.

Some people might even confuse consensual exploration with scheming behind their partner’s back, and that’s a tremendous no-no in our little gay book.

That’s where HER comes in! The dating app that’s all about celebrating diversity, including the multi-love lifestyle of the polyamorous community. 

With 19% of the 35 and older folks identifying as non-monogamous and almost ⅓  of our users open to the possibilities of polyamory, you’ll find a safe and supportive space to connect with others who share your values and lifestyle. Say goodbye to judgment and hello to finding a full rainbow of open-minded peeps who are ready to welcome you with pride 🏳️‍🌈

We met on HER!

SJ & Flint from Orange County, CA

It was the roller skates that did it. We were both married to men, polyamorous, looking for a casual, uncommitted, fleeting connection. But the moment I saw them in those skates, in full roller derby gear, squatting on the jam line waiting for a whistle, it was all over. Now the men are history and we’re married to each other, and now we use HER to recruit for our own derby team. We’ve found five skaters that way.

Angel & Amy from Santa Fe, NM

I’ve seen her on HER for a while but never messaged her because she was married and in a Poly/Relationship Anarchy Situation and I prefer monogamous relationships. I did end up just hitting her up with a message just as a connection because she looked cool and I was curious and exploring relationship anarchy a bit. We hit it off pretty quickly, she divorced her partner and asked me to be monogamous, and we fellIn love. We’ve been seeing one another for 9 months and are Planning a future together.

Polyam FAQs

Why is HER the right dating app for polyamorous people?

Trust us, we are well aware that trying to navigate the online dating world as a polyamorous peep can be a real struggle. It’s like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole!

Traditional dating apps are often geared towards the idea of monogamous relationships and don’t understand the unique needs and experiences you crave.

So what makes HER the perfect dating app for you? It’s simple, really. We understand that relationships come in all shapes and sizes, and we celebrate that diversity.

No more feeling like an outsider or hiding who you truly are. Here, you’ll find a community ready to support your unique way of loving.

Plus, each one of our users can showcase in their profile what they’re looking for, including ‘polyamorous relationship’, ‘new friends’, or ‘something casual’.

That way, you’ll know exactly who to connect with while swiping for some matches. So come on in, we’re waiting with open arms!

How can I find other polyamorous people within the app?

Honey, finding other polyamorous folks on HER is easy peasy! You just gotta know where to look. First things first, make sure you have your relationship preferences listed accurately on your profile. This way, the app knows exactly what you’re looking for and can lead you to that sweet treasure at the rainbow’s end!

Next, get ready to mingle and connect with others in our supportive queer community. You can join or create groups related to polyamory, attend virtual events hosted by the app, or simply swipe and match others with similar relationship preferences. And let me tell you, the connections you make on HER are real and authentic, so don’t be shy! It’s time to live your love life to the fullest.

How safe is using dating apps for a polyamorous person?

Safety is a top priority for us here at HER. We understand that being polyamorous on a dating app adds some layers to the beautiful cake of life, and you want to be able to connect with others without any worries. That’s why we’ve got a squad of in-app community moderators who are always on the prowl, ensuring everyone plays nice and follows rules like having a live face picture at all times so we can weed out the lurkers..

And if any trouble arises, HER also has a zero-tolerance policy for hate speech, harassment, and discrimination. This means that you can mingle and make connections in a supportive, welcoming environment. It’s like having virtual personal bodyguards who’ve got your back, always. Go ahead and get matchin’! You’re in good hands.

As a polyamorous person, what are some do’s and don’ts I should know of before joining the app?

Okay, let’s talk about what you need to know before joining the polyamorous scene on HER.

Do: Be real with your partners. It’s important to stay honest about your intentions and expectations. Transparency is key, remember: there is nothing to hide and you shouldn’t feel like you have to.

On the flip side, take the time to get to know your potential partners and understand their needs and boundaries. It’s also okay to mention if you already have a partner(s) and what kind of relationship you are in,

Keep the lines of communication open, always. It’s important to build a safe space and to show that you are dating intentionally.

And most important of all: be confident and own who you are! Remember, we are all about pride 😉

Don’ts: Don’t try to force anything, sometimes the connection is just not there, and consent is key!

Don’t fall into peer pressure. Non-monogamy looks different from person to person, don’t let others keep you in a box.  Honor your boundaries and do what makes you comfortable, consensually of course

Don’t try to fit into a mold: be yourself and celebrate your uniqueness.

Many of these tips apply to your monogamous and monogamish peers as well, so don’t worry too much about standing out!

At the end of the day, we’re all trying to show our love, and love can be represented in tons on ways. As long as it’s sincere, ethical, and consensual, let’s go for it!