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Meaning of pansexuality

Pansexual is one of a number of ‘omnisexual’ identities, which means attraction to multiple genders. Pansexuality uses the ‘all’ prefix to reject a binary view of gender or the idea that there are only two genders.

Despite its definition as ‘all genders’, this doesn’t mean being attracted to everyone. It just means that gender doesn’t really come into the equation. Love is love, and whoever you’re attracted to is amazing.

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Meeting new people, having new experiences, connecting with each other – that’s what dating should be about! Despite pansexuality being fairly common, it is also often misunderstood. It can be really difficult for pan folks to find spaces, even queer spaces, that offer the safety and support to be completely ourselves without fear

That’s what HER profiles are here for: HER is a dating and community app that offers a judgment-free zone where you can find people like you and open-minded folks who respect you for your sexuality, not in spite of it. Queer people need to stick together, and HER is a place to be your authentic self and find someone who wants you for you. 

Head to the App Store or the Play Store and see what happens – it’s for free and you could meet the one.

The pansexual flag

The pan flag has been floating around on the internet since around 2010 and is thought to have been created by a user called Jasper V on Tumblr. But pansexuality existed long before it had a flag. 

Flags have historically been used in the LGBTQ+ community to bring visibility to different sexual orientations and gender identities and gain recognition both within the queer community and more broadly. 

The pansexual flag consists of three horizontal stripes: blue, yellow and pink. The blue stripe represents attraction to those who identify as male or masculine, the pink stripe represents attraction to those who identify as female or feminine, and the yellow stripe represents attraction to everyone else, including non-binary people, genderqueer people and intersex 🙂

 

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Pansexual FAQ

Who do pansexual people date?

Pansexual is a term made by combining ‘pan’, which comes from pas, meaning ‘all’ in Greek, and ‘sexual’, which, well, we know what that means.

As pansexual is a type of sexual orientation, it refers not to the sorts of sex someone has but the sorts of people they’re attracted to.

So while ‘bisexual’ refers to someone who is up for dating both sexes – male and female – pansexual refers to someone who will date someone of any gender – from agender to gender-fluid, non-conforming, questioning and bigender to cisgender and trans.

What is the difference between pangender and pansexual?

A sexual orientation refers to the attraction that an individual feels, and pansexual is a sexual orientation. Therefore, being pansexual – with ‘pan’ being a derivative of the Greek ‘pas’ for ‘all – means being attracted to people of all genders.

Anyone of any gender can be pansexual and can find people of any gender – apart from cis men – to date on HER.

Pangender, however, is a gender identity. Gender identity is an individual’s personal sense of their own gender. If someone is pangender, that means they identify across all genders, taking in all or some of them at once.

Pangender people also can use HER to meet other pangender friends who understand their lived experiences.

What is a panromantic?

Just as bisexuality has been unfairly associated with promiscuity, there is a bad stereotype of pansexual people out there, which suggests that just because they have the ability to be attracted to people of any gender, they are somehow immediately attracted to anyone they meet.

To get away from this unfortunate and unrealistic promiscuous stereotype, based on little more than anecdotes here and there, some pan people prefer to identify as panromantic.

This means they can have a romantic attraction toward someone of any gender. This phrase is also useful to mark out a difference between those who can find themselves sexually attracted to people of any gender – pansexual – but not necessarily romantically attracted to people of any gender – and therefore not panromantic.

How do I date as a pansexual person? Can HER make it easier for me to date?

Dating as a pansexual person can be difficult  due to the stereotypes and misconceptions associated with pansexual people. 

As we know, there can unfortunately even be bigotry towards pansexual people from inside of the queer community as well. 

Enter HER, a dating and community app  filled with open-minded people that provides a safe space for people of all genders and all sexualities to meet each other, find their communities, and date. 

Our app has dedicated trust and safety team members across the globe, ready to jump in when you need them. We use a combination of evolving internal tools, user reporting, and a central team of expert moderators who work 24/7 to keep our platform safe against harmful actors and scammers.

What makes HER different to other pansexual dating sites?

HER is one of the best pansexual dating apps because it provides opportunities for pansexual people like no other due to the strong community underpinning our ethos.

Created for and by queer people, our commitment is to ensure that you can date in a safe and welcoming environment, as well as meet other pan people.

Moreover, HER has over 200k self-declared pansexual people in its communities who you can meet today!

How is pansexual dating different from bisexual dating?

Now there is increasing understanding of many genders as well as the two sexes, and lots of non-binary and trans folks don’t wish to be referred to as one or the other sex, rather their gender. 

This means the easiest way to refer to someone who is attracted to any gender, as well as any sex, is ‘pansexual’.

What if I want to date somebody who identifies as pansexual?

If you want to date somebody who identifies as pansexual, it’s important to see beyond just their identity.

Pansexual people, like all people, deserve to be seen and appreciated in their entirety, and it’s important to know that no one pansexual person is exactly the same as the next.

Really, what’s worth remembering is that a pansexual person is someone who either does not base their attraction on gender at all,  or they are equally attracted to people of all genders.

Who are some famous pansexual people?

Cara Delevigne, Courtney Act, Miley Cyrus, Janelle Monae and Panic! At the Disco’s Brendon Urie are just a few celebs that speak openly about being pansexual and pansexual dating in the media.

Pansexual dating can be difficult because of the lack of understanding of the identity but being pansexual is real and valid. There’s someone out there for you – find your person on HER.