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HER is the ultimate destination for fabulous Asian sapphics. Say buh-bye to bland and boring online spaces, because we’ve created a safe haven just for you queens. Brought to you by a team of genius queers, it’s time to mix and mingle, connect with your girls, and rule the world one match at a time.

Download HER now to join communities and chat with other Asian lesbians from all around the world!

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Connect with other wonderful Asian sapphics!

Let’s be honest, online dating can feel like a hetero-normie mess. And as an Asian lesbian, the layers just keep piling on and on.

Some folks from older generations have inherited a pretty dominant culture, including some western beliefs, and that can lead to households that aren’t exactly rainbow-friendly, making it tough to be your true self around family and friends. Now add the fact that each country can be extremely different when it comes to dating, courtship, or meeting new people in general, where even to begin?!

Well, HER is the place. With over 13 million active users and an evolving array of features for lesbians, queer, non-binary, and trans people to flirt, date, and build community, we’ve been breaking the mold of traditional dating apps by giving users tons of ways to express themselves and connect with one another 🌈

For starters, you can find our in-app communities dedicated to any interest or hobby you can imagine, from gardening to TV trivia, there’s a spot waiting for you. Within these spaces, you may find people with a similar upbringing or culture. And who knows, you might just find your soulmate along the way!

So there you have it. No need to settle for basic dating options when there’s a whole world out there!

Empower your dating experience

Dating should be enjoyable! It should make you happy and excited to meet someone that matches you perfectly, and that’s exactly what we want to give you here at HER.

We know that conventional apps can be a kind of a minefield for Asian lesbians, facing fetishization or discrimination, being called exotic or “different,” which can lead to harmful stereotypes and microaggressions.

We want you to take control of your dating experiences and find love on your own terms. Our platform is a safe space for all LGBTQIA+ cuties, including POC, where you can be specific about your wants and needs, show your true personality, and be unapologetically you! 🫰

Our colorful community is ready to welcome you with open arms!

We met on HER!

Arianna & Yubyn

“It was June 14, 2020 and we were both scrolling on her at night time. We started talking right after matching and right away I could tell there was a spark.


We enjoyed our conversation so much we made plans immediately to meet the next night, where we ended up meeting at Redondo beach and kissing while sitting on the sand an hour and a half after knowing each other.


We both felt it, I knew right away she would be someone that was about to change my life. 5 days later, we started dating after our second date. Now we’re getting married in less than a week and getting an apartment together in 3 months. I am certain I have found my life partner, and despite this years’ up and downs, she’s made it the best year of my entire life.”

“Cadz first messaged me here, I did respond to her after 7 months because I’m not always online and I seldom used this app. We chat for a month and finally meet. After a month we became lovers and now we’ve been together for 3 years. Living on the same roof with our 14 fur babies. Thank you HER.”

Sam & Bronwyn

“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”

Safety FAQs

Q: How do you make HER safe for Asian lesbians and other lesbians of color?

Honey, at HER, we take safety and inclusivity seriously! We’ve got a strict, no-nonsense policy when it comes to hate speech and discrimination, and we’ve got the tech to back it up.

Our fab team of moderators, who are dedicated to making sure that this is a safe space for all, will be on sight of every in-app community and virtual event, so you’re in good hands.

You can also feel free to report the creep-os out there, contributing to the safety of your Asian sisters, and we listen to any feedback you have to make you comfortable in your journey to find love.

Rest assured that you can be yourself and have fun on HER without any drama.

Q: I live in a country where it’s not socially acceptable or safe to be out, can I still join HER?

Absolutely. Whether you’re looking for love, friendship, or simply want to be part of a growing global community of queer people, HER is the place for you no matter where you live or where you are in your journey. If you want to limit who can keep your profile, there’s an option to go incognito, where only people you like will be able to find you.

Plus, all Community posts are moderated, so you’ll find nothing but open-minded and supportive lesbians and lesbian-friendly people to connect and chat with. You also have the power to unmatch, block, or report others for being transphobic, misogynistic, or for making HER an unsafe space.

Q: Is ‘yellow fever’ a thing for lesbians too?

Listen, some white folks are still caught up in their colonial mindsets and fetishes.

At HER, we accept everyone’s preferences, no matter what they may be, and we never judge. But, let’s be real, when someone’s likes and dislikes are rooted in discrimination, we have to call it out. Now, when it comes to ‘yellow fever,’ it’s a problem that’s especially rampant among white men.

It’s based on the idea that Asian women are submissive and passive, which is just misogyny in disguise. 

We can’t promise that there won’t be any lesbians out there who need to reevaluate their views on Asian women, but what we can do is reassure you that our platform will always be a safe space away from those kinds of people.

Q: Is it hard to find other Asian lesbians within the app?

Not a chance! With over 13 million users worldwide 🌎 You will most likely find other lesbians from Asian countries or of Asian backgrounds.

From swiping left and right, to our interest-specific in-app communities and virtual watch parties, there’s a whole universe full of options ready for you!

You can also pick whichever country you want to meet people from when you’re at HER Premium user because we know there are no borders when it comes to love. So join us and experience for yourself how amazing it is to find a community of people who feel, love, and think like you!