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Baby Dyke Meaning

We’ve all been there. When you’re newly out of the closet and don’t even know what your rising sign is yet. You are what we in the (lesbian) biz call a “baby dyke.” Baby dykes might be inexperienced, but they are also wide-eyed and adorable and not yet ruined by years of online dating. And what they lack in experience they more than make up for with enthusiasm. 

A baby dyke is a lesbian who is fresh out of the closet. They’re wild, (usually) young, and free — but too scared to have sex rn. 

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How old are baby dykes?

According to Urban Dictionary, a baby dyke is usually a “young” lesbian, since lot of people come out when they’re in their teens and 20s. But the term can also apply to a late-in-life lesbian, or someone who comes out in their 30s, 40s, 50s, etc.. You can still technically be a “baby dyke” if you’re new to the lesbian/dyke lifestyle. Welcome! It’s much, much better here. 

Baby dykes are still in the process of learning the lingo: butches, femmes, tops, bottoms. Not only that, they’re still figuring out how they want to wear their hair. In a bi bob? Maybe pansexual bangs? Polyamorous layers?? They’re still deciding whether or not they’re a purse or tote bag lesbian. (We all settle into the tote bag life eventually.)  

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If you’re a baby dyke reading this, know that all this awkwardness is just a phase — you’ll feel like an old seasoned dyke in no time. If you’re interacting with a baby dyke: be kind! Approach them like a little cub. There’s no need to ruin their day because you’re bitter after decades of swiping left. And if you’re in a relationship with one: be gentle! Their first heartbreak will haunt them. Don’t make it too traumatizing. 

This is part of lesbian slang dictionary from HER. Have you read it?