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39 Things Gay Girls Think At Least Once In Their Life

By Emily Moulder |

From the baby dykes to the silver fox lezzies, from the queerios and femmes to the stone butches, there are a few universal thoughts or feelings that we experience when we don’t know anything about our own sexuality or identity.  Before we have sex for the first time, before our first relationship, before we come out and before we know that being gay is actually nothing out of the ordinary.  Tucked away in the backs of our minds there are thoughts, nagging and embarrassing questions, naive assumptions, and feelings of complete and utter bewilderment that we can all relate to.

  1. How do I tell if I have a crush on my best friend?
  2. Will all my friends think I have a crush on them now?
  3. But who really is the man in lesbian couples?
  4. If we’re both women, do we still need to wax?
  5. Am I more a Bette, Shane or Alice from the L Word?
  6. Do I need to buy a lot of dildos now?
  7. If a girl wants me to use a strapon with her, does that mean she wants a man?
  8. If I come out, do I have to wear gay clothes?  What do those look like?
  9. I think I already wear pretty gay clothes, will other lesbians know I’m gay or will I need a haircut too?
  10. If I fancy a girl who looks a bit like me, does that make me a narcissist?
  11. If I finger a girl, is that sex?
  12. If a girl goes down on me but I don’t go down on her, is that sex?
  13. If I like boys too, will I still be allowed to go to gay bars?
  14. Am I allowed to like boys and girls or do I have to pick?
  15. I’m not quite sure if I like this whole boy/girl thing, isn’t there another option?
  16. If I get too butch, will other girls think I’m a guy and not find me attractive?
  17. If I cut my hair short, will other lesbians finally notice me?
  18. If I wear dresses and feminine clothes, how will other women know I’m a lesbian?
  19. If I’m a lesbian but I have a threesome with a girl and a guy, does that mean I’m bisexual now?
  20. What will my parents say when I tell them?
  21. Should I tell my grandparents?
  22. Will my friends stand by me?
  23. Will God still love me?
  24. Do I have to tell my boss?
  25. How do I know I’m gay gay and not just into girls when I’m drunk?
  26. What happens If I tell everyone I’m a lesbian and then I fall in love with a man?
  27. If I date a woman who looks just like a man, doesn’t that just mean I’m straight?
  28. If I’m in a changing room with other women, will I freak other women out?
  29. How do I know if I’m a femme, butch, androgynous, power lez, LUG, boi, stud, diesel dyke etc?  Is it all just about the clothes?  I need to google some stuff.
  30. How on Earth do you talk to women in bars?
  31. I DON’T KNOW WHAT I’M DOING!
  32. Just because I’m gay, do I have to agree with gay marriage?
  33. If I do have babies, will they turn out gay because I’m gay?  Why am I gay?
  34. Why do people hate gay people?  I don’t understand any of this.
  35. If I hold a girl’s hand in public, will people abuse us?
  36. Should I care what other people think?
  37. No.
  38. I think I’m doing OK.
  39. Pizza?
Edited: tone
Header image: sodahead

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Emily is the Community Manager of Dattch as well a part-time film reviewer and full-time cookie monster.  She can’t walk in heels, is a cross-breed of Essex girl and Londoner and makes cupcakes like nobody’s business.  Find further nonsense from Emily on Twitter @moulder5000