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4 Tips on how to survive the end of cuffing season

Feb 25, 2020

As the weather breaks, so are relationships. Not everything is going to be sunshine and rainbows, or Netflix and Chill. You’re going to spring clean your relationships. And you know it’s time, literally, we push our clocks forward which means you have less time for people’s BS. We know that this is titled on how to survive, but really we are going to take you through how to thrive at the end of cuffing season.

  1. Go back in the closet….
    And clean it out. You are going to be out in the daylight, getting ready for pride and hitting up new events. Want to feel like your best self? Get your closet organized. Best rule of thumb – if you haven’t worn it in the last 6 months, get rid of it. Time to say bye Felicia to that shirt you swear you’ll wear, or the suit that no longer fits. You’ve got this.
  2. Don’t even think about texting your ex
    Don’t you even dare. They do not look better in the sunshine, and if they can’t have you at your sweat pants and ice cream, then they don’t deserve you at your fancy sunglasses and swim suit. The best quote to remember is that you can not be interested and inconsistent, and that’s the tea.
  3. Reconnect with your squad
    At the end of relationships during cuffing season, there is a solid temptation to go off the grid. Not text, call, post, zip-zero-nada. It’s a thing where you go into your own black hole until the problem is forgotten by everyone, and then you make yourself magically appear again one day, like nothing happened. Keep in touch with people, you are not alone. And you deserve to continue living your best life, but you can’t do that in the shadows.
  4. Live your truth
    Don’t be embarrassed by your relationship problems. Many LGBTQ+ womxn and people have boarded the hot mess express when it comes to relationships issues. No one is perfect, and everyone has done it – it’s very on brand for everyone in our community. Own up to it, be mature about it (because it could happen again) and keep it moving. Take care of yourself and lean on the people that you need to, but don’t settle or think that you’re the only one.

At the end of the day, remember that Pride is around the corner and that is the light at the end of this rainbow tunnel.

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