Robyn Exton, Mook Phanpinit, Jessica Serviat
Robyn is the CEO & Founder of HER. Find her on Twitter.
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Robyn Exton, Mook Phanpinit, Jessica Serviat
May 05, 2026
Finding someone who understands your asexuality or respects your boundaries, even if they’re not ace, can feel daunting, but it’s absolutely possible.
Whether you’re looking for romance, a queerplatonic bond, or a close emotional connection, the ace and ace-friendly dating landscape in 2026 is more inclusive than ever.
With new filters, safety tools, and dedicated communities, you don’t have to reshape yourself to fit traditional dating expectations.
Here’s how to navigate this new world of connection with confidence and care.
Asexuality is a sexual orientation where someone experiences little to no sexual attraction.
The spectrum is broad. Many asexual people still feel romantic, aesthetic, or emotional attraction. Around 1% to 5% of people identify somewhere on the asexual spectrum, which also includes identities like demisexual or gray-asexual.
Romantic orientation helps clarify what kind of affection feels right for each person.
Here’s a quick guide to common romantic orientations:
| Romantic orientation | Description |
| Aromantic | Experiences little to no romantic attraction |
| Biromantic | Romantically attracted to more than one gender |
| Heteroromantic | Romantically attracted to a different gender |
| Homoromantic | Romantically attracted to the same gender |
| Demiromantic | Experiences attraction only after emotional connection |
If you’re still exploring what fits, resources like the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), AceSpace, or ace-friendly Discord groups are good places to learn terminology, ask questions, and connect with others who share similar experiences.
Mainstream apps aren’t always designed for nuanced identities.
Ace- and queer-focused platforms make it easier to build meaningful matches by allowing users to express identity clearly and connect with people who understand the ace experience.
| Platform | Key features | Ace-inclusive options |
| HER | Inclusive queer app with safety-first tools | Orientation tags, community groups and Incognito Mode |
| AceSpace | Orientation-based filters and community forum | Filter by sexual and romantic comfort levels |
| AsexualCupid | Straightforward dating layout | Focuses exclusively on the ace community |
| ACEapp | Global reach with detailed profile matching | Separate tags for intimacy and romance preferences |
HER is especially helpful for sapphic and queer users, offering community spaces that centre connection and self-expression beyond sexual attraction, supported by safety tools built from queer values.
The best ace-friendly dating profiles are transparent and authentic. Being upfront saves time and emotional energy for everyone involved.
You can describe yourself with terms like “biromantic ace,” “demisexual,” or “aromantic ace,” and use profile prompts to clarify your comfort levels around intimacy. Examples include:
Include what kind of relationship you’re open to, whether romantic, platonic, or non-monogamous, and use built-in orientation and identity tags.
Being open and specific helps minimize misunderstandings and repeated conversations later on.
Because the asexual community is comparatively small, widening your search can make a big difference.
Use filters not just for gender and location, but also for romantic orientation, comfort with physical intimacy, and long-distance availability.
Some filters to consider:
You might also explore ace-affirming communities on Discord or Reddit, alongside dating apps.
Being visible across platforms can increase your chances of finding someone compatible, even in smaller cities.
Sometimes the best connections start in spaces that aren’t explicitly dating platforms.
Online and in-person ace communities create room for authentic connection before romance.
Join forums like AVEN, groups on AceSpace or Asexualitic, or use HER’s ace-focused community spaces and events.
Many people find that friendships built here naturally deepen into romantic or queerplatonic bonds.
Local LGBTQ+ events also welcome ace attendees, helping you meet people who already understand orientation diversity.
Boundaries are essential for comfort and respect in any relationship, but especially in ace or mixed-orientation dynamics.
Talk about what intimacy looks like for you, whether that includes cuddling, hand-holding, or simply emotional closeness.
A simple tool is the “Yes/No/Maybe” list:
You can create your own version and compare with a partner. Clear, kind communication at the start builds trust and makes space for mutual consent and curiosity.
Meeting new people online always comes with some risk, so prioritize safety.
Meet in public first, verify profiles before sharing personal details, and use privacy features like HER’s Incognito Mode if you want to browse quietly.
Ace dating can move at a slower pace, and that’s completely normal. Trust can take time to build, especially in smaller or online-first communities.
Patience invites genuine attraction to unfold naturally rather than through pressure or expectation.
HER’s moderation tools and consent-based resources help users navigate new connections safely and confidently, supporting both ace and ace-friendly daters.
Apps and communities built for ace and queer people, like HER, ACEapp, AceSpace, and AsexualCupid, offer the best chances of meeting compatible matches with orientation-friendly filters.
You can mention your orientation in your profile or bring it up in chat once you feel comfortable. Early honesty ensures mutual understanding.
Use orientation or intimacy tags to show what you want, such as “open to romance, not sex.” Clarity helps avoid mismatched expectations.
Yes. Many ace/sexual partnerships work well when both people communicate clearly and respect each other’s needs.
Join HER’s ace groups, AVEN forums or ace-specific Discord servers. These spaces offer advice and emotionally safe ways to meet like-minded people.
Further reading on asexual dating and community spaces
Robyn Exton, Mook Phanpinit, Jessica Serviat
Robyn is the CEO & Founder of HER. Find her on Twitter.
