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The Sapphic Dating App

Lesbian Dating and LGBTQIA+ Connections

Join a safe space where queer women, nonbinary and trans sapphics come to meet, chat and flirt, all with the goal of finding their person. 

Step into the sapphic utopia of your dreams! Build authentic LGBTQIA+ connections and meet your forever people. 

Created by and for queer folks, HER takes the guesswork out of queer and lesbian dating so you can focus on finding the one. 

13+ million active members

With no shortage of sapphic people, your perfect match awaits

4.5 stars on the App Store

Apple Editor’s Choice 2019 - 2023

Empowering communities

Join one of our vibrant 30+ community groups

Queers and lesbians near you

Connect safely with like-minded friends & lovers in your area

We created a relationship platform that we actually enjoy being on

The #1 LGBTQIA+ Dating App

HER was the first app to launch that exclusively focussed on the needs of queer, bisexual and lesbian dating. While there were over 40 apps for other sexualities, not a single dating app existed for LGBTQ+ women and non-binary people until there was HER. Eight years later, HER has made over 300 million lesbian matches, thousands of queer marriages and hundreds of lil babies.  

HER is the world’s largest (and most iconic) dating and community-building platform for lesbian, bisexual, queer women and gender-non-conforming icons worldwide. Whilst most heteronormative apps focus on the experience of cis men (the people those apps make their money from), HER is designed to focus exclusively on the needs of queer women, non-binary and trans people.   

We have features to express the unique parts of sapphic culture that mean the most to you and your identity. We have community spaces to connect with other people like you. And we create a safe space amongst other sapphics to be yourself and focus on what’s important to you while finding your partner. 

With over 13 million users in more than 114 countries, you can absolutely bet that your perfect match — or perfect matches — are only a few clicks away. So, whether you’re looking for a partner or hoping to make new friends, HER has something for you. 

Let your most authentic self shine through

HER’s Most Unique Features

HER cares, and I mean really cares. Our unique in-app features reflect that. Our queer and lesbian dating app allows you to customize every little aspect of your dating profile so the most authentic version of yourself can shine brightly from day one.

Unlike the hetero apps, HER allows you to easily add your pronouns, gender identity, sexual orientation, and a litany of other fun facts and pins to your profile that make you, well, you! 

We go a step further than just giving you the option to list your basic lifestyle, like whether you’re sober, religious, or want kids someday. We also allow you to add Pride Pins to your profile so you can easily let potential matches know whether you’re QPOC, T4T, chapstick or masc lesbians, intersex, and more. You can even add things to your profile, like your love language, or include one (or a few) of our free Political Pride Pins to filter your feed according to the nitty-gritty social issues you care about the most! 

The best part? All of our core features are free and will remain free. Like, forever. That said, if you’re ever looking to upgrade your experience and take it to the next level, HER Premium offers one-of-a-kind features like incognito mode, rewinding profiles you accidentally swiped left on, seeing everyone who’s viewed you, and unlimited swipes. 

Join us today and discover what awaits you on the App Store or the Play Store.

We met on HER!

Amanda & Rasheeda

“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for HER bringing us together.”

Sam & Bronwyn

“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”

Sarah & Kylee

“I knew the moment I saw Sarah’s photo I was interested in them. Luckily, they felt the same way!”

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Our trust and safety team ensures that HER remains a safe space

Safe Lesbian & LGBTQIA+ Dating

HER has become the most prominent player in the queer dating app scene, so you can rest assured that this platform and team are looking out for your unique queer needs. With more people comes great responsibility and our Trust and Safety team works around the clock to improve HER’s safety measures and ensure the safety and well-being of our community. 

We have a world-class Trust and Safety team, including moderators who ensure everyone on HER is treated with respect.  On top of this, users are verified and authenticated on the app by connecting their profiles with existing social media accounts.

If you ever come across something that just isn’t sitting quite right, flag or report it so that our team can assess the situation and remove any scammers, transphobes, or fake celebrity profiles from the app.

 

HER dating app FAQ

Is the HER app safe?

Being a queer person comes with its own set of personal considerations, and we understand that. That’s why we take your safety seriously at HER and are committed to ensuring that you feel safe and respected in our community. 

 

Gone are the days of endlessly scrolling through lesbian dating sites that aren’t actually built for the sapphic community.

 

With HER, you’re in complete control of your profile and search preferences, and we encourage our users to verify their profiles and filter for other verified profiles to ensure authenticity and avoid fake profiles. If you prefer, you can enable incognito mode so you can browse and engage with users without revealing your identity until you’re ready. 

 

You can trust us to do all we can to keep you safe and make your HER experience positive. In addition, we provide resources to help you navigate the platform safely.

What countries is HER available in?

We are available in 125+ countries and locally in English, Spanish, French, German, and Japanese. See all the countries we’re in.

Is the HER app free?

HER is the most loved lesbian dating app for finding your person or community, and we’re proud to offer all our core features totally free of charge. Yes, you don’t have to pay to be on and use the app.

 

The free version of the app allows you to access everything you need to connect with others, including adding friends, viewing profiles, starting chats, viewing events, and joining communities.

How does the HER premium subscription work?

With HER Premium, finding friends and matches is even easier. You can take advantage of an ad-free experience, see who’s online in real-time, filter by sexuality, use the app in incognito mode (without exposing your identity), view who has liked you, and many other cool features.

 

Getting started is easy – simply subscribe to HER Premium, and you’ll immediately have access to all its amazing features until your subscription expires at the end of its duration. 

 

How can I update my gender identity on my profile?

It’s not just about expressing who you are; it also helps others understand and respect you better. By sharing your gender identity, you can avoid assumptions and misgendering that can make conversations hurtful and uncomfortable. That’s why our team has created a detailed guide on updating your gender identity on your HER profile.

 

It’s all about creating a welcoming and accepting community where everyone can be themselves without judgment and learn more about you and how you live. 

Can I use HER to make friends?

HER isn’t just a dating app — it’s also a queer and lesbian community app and a fantastic tool for discovering new friends who share your interests. So, if you’re looking for an exciting way to expand your social circle, look no further than HER. 

 

We offer an ‘Add Friend’ option on profiles so you can connect with like-minded individuals and build your own community of people. Whether you’re new to a city or just looking to explore your local queer scene, our app can help you find the best events and activities nearby. With a dedicated community section, you can engage in conversations on varied topics, find your niche, and make new friends. 

 

So why wait? Join HER today and start connecting with amazing individuals from all walks of life!

Sapphic dating FAQ

What is the girl version of Grindr?

There’s a bit of a Grindr vibe for finding amazing women on HER, but we focus on fostering quality connections, not just quick hookups.

HER goes beyond just swiping, though. It’s a safe space to find iconic queer women, non-binary and trans people who are down for anything, from coffee dates to dance floor domination. 

 

Think of us as your modern-day Lesbos (that 6th century BC Greek island paradise), a place where sapphics gathered to celebrate art, music, and each other. Here at HER, you can match with someone who shares your passions and is looking for something real.

How can I find a lesbian partner?

Looking for a lesbian partner can be an exciting but daunting journey. It can take you down different paths, and each experience is unique. But if you’re searching for a welcoming and inclusive space tailored to the LGBTQ+ community, HER is an excellent starting point. 

 

HER is a dedicated platform designed for lesbian, bi, queer, and other marginalized genders. It fosters a supportive environment where authenticity thrives, making connecting with like-minded individuals who share similar experiences and interests easier. HER offers personalized matching and community events, allowing you to meet potential partners in a safe and inclusive space. 

 

So, if you’re wondering where to find a lesbian partner, HER is the perfect place to begin your search.

What should you do on a first date?

First dates can be fun! We know it can be nerve-wracking to meet someone new, but that first spark can be incredibly powerful. That’s why we’ve got tips and conversation starters like funny first date questions to break the ice. 

 

Feeling a little awkward? It happens to the best of us! Just relax, be yourself, and focus on getting to know the other person. Ask questions about their hobbies, interests, and what they’re looking for in a partner. You might be surprised at what you have in common!

What is the 3-month rule for dating?

 The “three-month rule” is a debatable idea that says you shouldn’t “fall in love” until 3 months. But really, every relationship moves at its own pace! We have a great article on dating for three months to help you navigate those early stages.

At HER, we believe in open communication and following your heart. Talk to each other about what you’re looking for in a relationship and see if you’re on the same page. If you and your date click and want to define the relationship, go for it! There’s no reason to wait.

Any advice on having lesbian sex for the first time?

Totally get the jitters! We’ve got you covered. Whether you’re nervous or excited, it’s completely normal. HER is a safe space where you can explore your feelings and desires at your own pace. 

 

We know sex can be a lot to think about, so we’ve created a guide to first-time lesbian experiences packed with information and tips for lesbian couples. 

 

Talk openly and honestly with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and what feels good for you. The more you communicate, the more comfortable and relaxed you’ll feel, allowing you to enjoy the moment and create a truly intimate connection.

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