Are you tired of trying to use mainstream hetero apps to try and find Asian lesbian relationships with folks who understand what it’s like to be queer in a country other than America? We get it. That’s why we made HER a place for everyone across the globe to feel welcome. Come and be a part of the world’s largest and most active community of Asian sapphic, lesbian, & queer people.
We know that it’s so important to find someone who understands the cultural and societal values that you have. Whether you’re looking for Asian support groups to help blow off some steam about gay rights or whether you’re looking for the love of your life, HER is the best Asian lesbian dating app. Don’t believe us? Look what we have to offer 🙂
With no shortage of people, your perfect match awaits.
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Aren’t you tired of wasting swipes on the mainstream apps, trying to wade through all the dudes to try and find women? Do you wish that all the beautiful sapphic babes were already together on one fantastic app? We have good news for you, we got tired of seeing our vibrant and unique Asian sapphic community treated like any other boring hetero dating app. So, we created a safe space where Asian lesbians & LGBTQIA+ individuals can chat, connect, and just be their authentic selves without having to be worried about feeling like they’re in the wrong place. No matter which country you call home or what your goals for the future are, HER welcomes you with fabulously dressed open arms.
HER is the world’s largest (and we’re not afraid to say it, the best!) dating and community-building platform for Asian lesbians, sapphics, and LGBTQIA+ folks across the globe, with over 15 million users in more than 114 countries.
Your perfect match — or your new best platonic friends — are only a few taps away. You’re valid, welcome, and we are so happy you are in our community. From finding resources on how to fight for gay equal rights to getting advice on how to navigate lesbian dating for the first time, your people are waiting for you here!
Our sapphic & lesbian dating app allows you to customize every little aspect of your dating profile so the most authentic version of yourself can shine brightly from day one. Unlike the hetero-focused mainstream apps, HER allows you to easily add what style of relationship you are searching for, the age demographic of your potential partners, and a bunch of other fun facts and pins to your profile that make you, well, you!
You’ll find a supportive community for Asian sapphics & lesbians, where users can connect with understanding, non-judgmental folks who share similar experiences no matter where you are on your queer journey.
“One of my closest friend told me about this app when I tried to find someone to talk to again after my heartbreak and that’s how I met Lia. In our first interaction, she asked me to hang out with her in the coffee shop. It’s my first time experiencing that so it made me see that she’s different from everyone I met. After 8 days, I decided to meet her personally so I traveled 3 hours to see her. I will always remember how we met in that day because she gave me 4 sticks of cigarettes as a gift that we talked about. Distance is just a number for LOVE. Lia is the love of my life. Everything about her makes my feel loved, special and worthy of love. We are now 3 months in a relationship and still going and that’s how #WeMetOnHer. Thank you for giving us a new beginning with the use of this dating app.”
“After getting rid of everything and getting a passport and one way ticket to Asia, I decided to start my new life at 37. Spent some time in Nepal, then off to Thailand. She was the first person I had met in HER since I left the states (I had dates from HER in the USA). We chatted and flirted a bit, she finally asked me out on a date (in an adorably awkward way). She picked me up from my hotel and we went to dinner and drinks after, we ended up spending the night together. I’ve been waking up in her arms ever since!”
“It was June 14, 2020 and we were both scrolling on HER at night time. We started talking right after matching and right away I could tell there was a spark. We enjoyed our conversation so much we made plans immediately to meet the next night, where we ended up meeting at Redondo Beach and kissing while sitting on the sand an hour and a half after knowing eachother. We both felt it, I knew right away she would be someone that was about to change my life. 5 days later, we started dating after our second date. Now we’re getting married in less than a week and getting an apartment together in 3 months. I am certain I have found my life partner, and despite this years’ up and downs, she’s made it the best year of my entire life.”
HER is so much more than just a dating app. It’s where sapphic individuals can create long-lasting connections – from dating to friendship to finding your forever person who understands and accepts you just the way you are (because you are seriously incredible).
With over 35 queer Community groups to choose from, HER offers a safe and supportive space for users to engage socially with fellow Asian queer and gender non-conforming people without the intrusive hetero gaze found on other mainstream dating apps. Whether you’re looking for Asian lesbian events or advice on how to meet local women, there’s always a conversation to be had that you can dive right into.
These communities are designed to be inclusive and accessible for all of the amazing members of our app. Our safety-led approach to content moderation on the app is even amped up with a team of moderators from a variety of countries, age groups, and walks of life keeping an eye on the content in that space.
We also understand that discretion is of utmost importance on the app. We also have Incognito Mode: this is a profile feature that lets you hide your profile so that you can explore the community and make connections while putting your privacy 100% in your own hands.
HER is currently available in the following Asian countries: Cambodia, China, Hong Kong, India, Indonesia, Japan, Laos, Macau, Malaysia, Mongolia, Nepal, the Philippines, Singapore, Taiwan & Thailand. Full list
Lesbian dating in Thailand can be a complex experience. While Thailand is relatively open and tolerant compared to other Southeast Asian countries (same-sex marriage was made legal this year! We love to see it.), societal acceptance can still vary, especially in rural areas.
In bigger cities like Bangkok and Chiang Mai, there is a more visible sapphic scene, with bars, events, and performance spaces created to foster an Asian lesbian community.
Due to this difference in societal opinions, many relationships may still be kept private and it may be harder to make connections.
That’s where HER comes in as the ultimate Thai lesbian dating app to save the day!
When it comes to lesbian dating in Japan. When it comes to bigger city scenes like Tokyo and Osaka, there’s a vibrant Asian lesbian community with nightclubs, events, and even Pride events.
However, unlike in Thailand, Japan does not allow same-sex marriage. Many Japanese lesbians unfortunately feel a cultural need to stay in the closet and hide relationships and affection, especially when it comes to their family and workspace.
While we love that views in Japan are changing with the times, we don’t love that there’s a pressure to hide who you are, and we wanted to help.
On July 21st, 2021, we officially launched in Japan to help spread the love and become the #1 most trusted Japanese lesbian dating app. We are here for you to discover new Asian lesbian relationships safely and intentionally.
Queer dating presents enormous challenges due to the country’s harsh attitudes towards the community. Public displays of same-sex relationships are often frowned upon, with many lesbians choosing to remain discreet about their sexuality to avoid social stigma or potential discrimination.
The sapphic scene is not an easy one to find, although areas like Itaewon and Hongdae offer queer-friendly bars and clubs. But it’s not all gloom and doom- recently, small but significant legal advancements like the extension of health insurance rights to same-sex couples provide hope for increased acceptance in the future.
Dating apps are a common avenue for meeting potential partners in Korea, but almost all of them are focused on hetero couples.
We’re not about that life at HER. We’re the biggest Korean lesbian dating app because we understand the importance of discretion and not being in the hetero-male gaze. We’ve got your back, and all the Asian lesbian dating connections you need!
It’s important to be aware that cultural norms and values can play a huge role in how Asian women approach relationships and dating.
Many Asian cultures emphasize respect for family, traditional gender roles, and a deep sense of responsibility. While each woman is unique, showing respect to her cultural background is essential. Additionally, don’t stereotype!
Asian women come from diverse backgrounds and have different personalities and preferences (like any other woman). Respect, mindfulness, and understanding will go a long way!
In a nutshell, it’s complicated! There’s an intersection of cultural identity, race, and sexual orientation. This can lead to feeling othered in spaces where you’re meant to belong. Racism unfortunately exists in the queer community, and homophobia is still pretty common in Asian communities. This can make dating and making friends a landmine to navigate.
That being said, in the West, it’s easier to love out loud and be who you are without feeling like you’re doing something to dishonor your roots or doing something illegal. You can wave your rainbow flag with pride, honey, and kiss your girlfriend in public without shame.
Asian lesbian visibility is on the rise in the West and we are LOVING IT. At the end of the day, being an Asian sapphic in the West is a delicate balancing act between personal and cultural expectations while seeking acceptance and authenticity in both Asian and Western communities.
Quickly! HER does not allow fetishization on the app of any specific culture, race, or identity. We’re the space to come for connections and community, not to be weird and creepy about it.
Our Trust & Safety team, along with our amazing moderators, remove profiles and content that violate our guidelines around fetishization and discrimination.
You can rest easy knowing that the matches you make on HER are authentic.
