May 08, 2014
By Emily written especially for Lesbian.com
Online dating is an art form. It can take skill, patience, practice and a healthy dose of luck to get the kind of dates you’re really looking for. But what are the tried and tested tactics that will get girls replying to your messages or flocking to your profile? Take a look at the top tips from the women who know: Dattch.com, the dating app for lesbian, bisexual, curious and queer women.
Just for funsies, we shall illustrate these points with Santana from Glee. She is our spirit animal.
1 – Your profile picture needs to be of your face.
You would think this would be a given but far too many are ashamed of trying online dating and try to hide behind pictures of their dogs or a picture of a sunset? Would you walk into a bar or café with a mask on? No, so why would you try to meet people online that way? It’s all well and good wanting people to fall in love with your personality, but you’re making it really hard for them to connect with you if you’re hiding.
2 – Actually fill out your profile.
Again, should be a given but we’ve all seen profiles that just say, “Ask me.” Ask what? How do planes work? What time is it? It’s just the same your profile picture; would you walk up to someone in a bar, look them in the eye and just say, “Ask me.”
3 – Don’t open with, “Hey.”
If you can’t think of a better conversation starter than “Hey”, don’t message that person yet. Think of a funny opener or ask them a question based on their profile but avoid generic messages as it just shows you’re not interested in that specific person. You could be saying “Hi” to hundreds of people, make an effort for the ones you actually want to talk to.
Emily is the Community Manager of Dattch as well a part-time film reviewer and full-time cookie monster. She can’t walk in heels, is a cross-breed of Essex girl and Londoner and makes cupcakes like nobody’s business. Find further nonsense from Emily on Twitter @moulder5000
