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Agender meaning & flag

If we’re going to get into the nitty-gritty, agender means literally “not having a gender”. Some agender people describe it as a lack of gender while others like the term “gender-neutral”. In essence, it’s the experience of…well, not experiencing gender as most people do.

The term originated on Usenet back in 2000 making it vintage, baby. From there, agender non-binary people have used the term to describe their feelings on gender in an inclusive and cool way.

Agender people can present femme, butch, or anything in between. The key isn’t in their gender presentation, rather their gender itself. It’s all about how they feel, not how they present.

Some agender people like to go by they/them pronouns while others don’t mind the more common she/her or he/him. It’s all down to personal preference. What’s important is respecting the wishes of the agender person in question when referring to them.

Is being agender the same as being asexual?

The short answer: no. The long answer: nooooo. Asexuality describes people who don’t experience sexual attraction. This is very different to not experiencing gender. 

Think of it like someone assuming because someone is a woman they must be straight. Far from it. A woman can be straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, etc. In the same way, an agender person can identify as straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, etc. Gender and sexuality don’t go hand in hand.

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How is this different to identifying as nonbinary?

Think of “nonbinary” as an umbrella term similar to “queer”. It refers to a range of genders that don’t exclusively fall into the “man” or “woman” categories.

Agender people exist under the umbrella of nonbinary, but not all nonbinary people are agender. Some nonbinary people may identify as demiboys, demigirls, bigender, polygender, or otherwise – a whole variety of choices!

Another word associated with nonbinary is genderqueer – meaning your gender identity doesn’t conform to the mainstream. Agender people may identify as either or both nonbinary or genderqueer – the key is respecting them when they tell you what labels they’ve claimed for themselves.

Are agender people gender-fluid?

Gender-fluid essentially means your gender can ebb and change over time. This can mean you may feel more masculine on some days, more feminine on others, or neither at all. Some agender people are gender-fluid but not all gender-fluid people identify as agender.

Wait, there’s a flag?

Yep, agender people have their own agender flag. It uses black and white stripes to represent an absence of gender and a green stripe to represent other non-binary genders.

This is part of our official queer glossary – check it out!