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Body Positivity is Sexy AF

Robyn Exton

Jun 17, 2021

Body Positivity is Sexy AF

This content has been produced in partnership between Durex UK and HER as part of the #MySexMyWay campaign. 

For too long the world’s understanding of sex and intimacy has been focused exclusively on cisgender heterosexual experiences, meaning that the health and wellbeing of the queer and trans community are left behind when it comes to sex education, information, and representation. That’s why Durex has launched an extensive survey to better understand and expand on topics relating to LGBTQ+ sex, hoping to identify individual experiences within a greatly underserved community. With the specifics of how queer, trans, and non-binary people and how they relate to one another, Durex hopes to better understand and support everyone, so that each person can enjoy sex their way — safely, consensually, and with the confidence to bring their whole selves into any intimate situation. 

As part of this mission, we have created a range of articles that provide you with information to help you live your sex life your way. Join us in completing the UK’s largest LGBTQ+ sex survey from Durex, solely aimed at the LGBTQ+ community, and share your experiences to help us enable everyone to live their sex lives, their way.

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Queer folks aren’t born into a society that celebrates their bodies, and unless you’re one of the few who fall into every category of Euro-centric beauty standards, most people will get the wrong idea about their perceived hotness.

That’s why body positivity is so crucial, especially when it comes to how you feel when you’re getting intimate with someone else.

The idea of being body positive is often co-opted to mean a variety of things, but at its core, it’s the radical notion of loving and accepting yourself no matter what the world tells you might be wrong with you.

And because queer people are of varying identities, abilities, and sizes, there’s too often the potential to feel shame about more than one aspect of who you are, and that can translate to the bedroom.

Certain bodies move differently than others or can’t be in specific positions for too long. Some people find it hot to have sex in candlelight or complete darkness, while others want everything out in the open.

Use what you like for your body to your advantage, and see if picking out some toys together or role-playing helps you feel like your sexiest self in intimate scenarios.

Becoming body positive outside of sex will ultimately help anyone become more confident about their wants and needs in the bedroom.

Self-love requires eschewing societal norms and accepted social standards of sexy, and finding a partner who does the same.

As an added bonus, the confidence you feel will likely be contagious — your partner will match your enthusiasm and you’ll be extra successful in your experience.

Your empowered feelings about yourself and your body will be an asset to you during sex because you’ll be prepared to tell your partner exactly what you like and how you like it. 


Robyn Exton

Robyn is the CEO & Founder of HER. Find her on Twitter.

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