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Is a Dating App Meant to Be Deleted? Here’s What to Do After Finding the One!

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Jan 23, 2024

Is a Dating App Meant to Be Deleted? Here’s What to Do After Finding the One!
  • So, you’ve landed a sweetheart, what comes after that? We’ve got your post-swipe guide right here!

    There’s an unspoken rule about deleting a dating app once you’re partnered, but if you paid for a subscription or still struggle to meet friends IRL, you might be considering keeping it. So let’s break down the perfect moment to delete it or alternatives to keep being the online social butterfly that you are. 🦋

    What does “the dating app designed to be deleted” mean?

    Simple: it means that it works. Common dating apps have many uses, you can find from your next booty call, to your one true love (or a painful situationship). But if the main purpose is to find you a perfect match, a soulmate, if you will, then the logical next step is to uninstall it from your phone.

    You might think that the apps are lame and it’s so hard to find someone you actually like in there, but in reality, nearly 70% of folks who met someone on a dating app said it led to a romantic and exclusive relationship, while 28% said it did not.

    Many people say that when you find a partner on Tinder or Bumble, it’s a flaw in the algorithm, because they don’t want you to leave. But their popular contender, Hinge, has a pretty unique tagline: designed to be deleted, which clearly states that they will help you meet  someone worth ditching your dating profile.

    The right of passage of deleting your app of choice can be meaningful if you’re in a committed, monogamous relationship. But what if you’re polyamorous? What if you still want to meet new people without a romantic interest? Most importantly, what if I want more queer people in your life? Oh, do we have the place for you. 😉

    Hinge vs. HER

    If Hinge is supposed to lead you to the love of your life, then why download HER? First of all, if you’re reading this, you’re probably part of the queer community or a fierce ally, so that’s point number one.  HER is an app that helps FLINTA/LGBTQIA+ people find a partner and harbors dozens of communities to chat and connect with others! There are forums for film enthusiasts, plant mommies, and geeky gays. It’s basically the online rainbow paradise.

    Now for point number two: It offers both a free experience and a premium one. Unlike other dating apps, the unpaid version is super functional, practical, and fun! The subscription adds a few extra perks, like more daily matches and a wider location range.

    And lastly, our number three: HER prioritizes safety for sapphics and other LGBTQIA+ individuals. Online dating can be tricky outside of the community with not-so tolerant folks out there, especially for WLW, with unicorn hunters, fetishizers and overall creeps. Having an app that fosters love and equality is not only great, but necessary, and we want to be that safe haven for you.

    Our community moderators keep everything in check at all times to ensure group conversations are safe and respectful, and for the private ones, you can always block and report them, we’ll help you ASAP.

    Even if Hinge is a great option overall, and a popular one at that, what makes HER unique is that it’s made for people like me and you.

    Queer online dating with HER 

    As lesbian, bisexual, gay, trans, and/or queer individuals, dating can be a completely different experience compared to our cishet besties. From heteronormativity to patriarchal customs, there are expectations we simply can’t relate to, like conversation topics, couple dynamics, and even date ideas. 

    Being part of HER means you can enjoy our LGBTQIA+ friendly dating platform that will also help you connect with folks like you through our communities and in-app online events, creating a lasting and enriching experience beyond finding a partner.

    Over 13M users have found a safe place in our virtual paradise. This is what some of them have to say:

    “As a trans woman, I have had an amazingly accepting and affirming time interacting with the people I’ve met on this app, even if we only talk for a few minutes. The amount of support and acceptance I feel coming from the very fiber of the app itself helps me out quite a bit mentally. I’m so thankful to the team behind the app for being so inclusive in our ever expanding journey to find love.”


    “The experiences on this app so far have been nothing but pleasant. To have an app where I can feel like myself while I talk to people genuinely interested in me has been a blessing.”


    “It overall is a good app, I am fairly new. I think the community functions are unique and really cool, they seem like a good way to make general connections (which I need lol).”


    Our dating app FAQ

    Is online dating safe?

    It mostly is! Meeting strangers on the internet will always carry a risk. There are catfishes, impersonators, and scammers. Be not afraid, though, because most dating apps have fool-proof identity verification systems. Like on HER, we will ask for a very specific selfie to make sure a profile matches the person behind it.

    Do people find love on dating apps?

    Many certainly do! It depends on where you live and your preferences, but many love stories come out of a single swipe right.

    When should I delete a dating app?

    It really depends on the person, but the best reason to delete one is because you found the one through it! However, many apps, like HER, help you find friends, too. If your partner is comfortable, maybe there’s no need to delete it.

    Is HER only for lesbians and sapphics?

    It might have begun that way, but now we welcome everyone within the FLINTA/LGBTQIA+ communities, including queer women, trans women, trans men, non-binary folks, and gender non-conforming individuals.

    How do HER communities work?

    Think of them like a group chat and a forum mixed together. We created them to provide a space to share your thoughts and interests, broken up into different topics dedicated to the LGBTQIA+ community.  There is no limit to how many communities you can join, and you can fully engage with posts and users worldwide!

    And there it is, lovelies! Whether you’ve discovered your forever person or are still on the lookout, we want to celebrate the joy of keeping that dating app on your phone for more than just romantic connections. HER welcomes you with open arms to create the queer crew you’ve always dreamed of.

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    Renee Fonseca is a bisexual and bilingual writer with experience through multiple digital channels, always embracing her passion for creativity.

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