Select your language
Nov 14, 2024
Humor has always been a cornerstone of human culture, and LGBTQ+ humor is no exception — exemplified perfectly in lesbian sitting memes. As a community, we’ve all been through unique challenges and experiences, and sometimes, the best way to cope is by laughing together—or maybe even sitting weirdly together. For some reason, a quirky phenomenon exists within the lesbian community: a love for sitting in unconventional ways.
Whether it’s draping ourselves over armrests, or perching on the edge of chairs, weird seating habits have become a meme-worthy trend.
But why do so many lesbians seem drawn to sitting this way?
Some might say it’s a signal, an unspoken code that says, “Yes, I’m queer, and I’m comfortable enough to sit like this.” Or maybe it’s just a fun, lighthearted way of embracing our own stereotypes—an idea echoed by Reddit user flyingbarnswallow, who says, “I’m guessing it’s a combination of confirmation bias and leaning into stereotypes for fun.”
And you know what? Why not lean into it a little bit more?
All jokes aside, for some lesbian women, these ways of sitting are a rebellion against traditional expectations of femininity. Women are often socialized to take up as little space as possible, to sit “properly” with legs crossed or ankles together. But as we discover ourselves and come into our queer identities, those restrictive norms feel like they can—and should—be thrown out the window.
Reclaiming our space, even in the smallest ways, is a form of self-expression and identity.
Of course, let’s not forget that there might be a connection to neurodivergence, too. Sitting “normally” sometimes comes down to social norms and what’s considered “acceptable.” So while for some people, sitting “weird” is a matter of shirking traditional femininity, for others, sitting in a “weird” way is simply more comfortable or natural.
All of that said, let’s get into queer women memes about sitting styles.
It’s an oldie, but a goodie: wordplay!
When we find a joke that fits just right—or should I say, an irresistible chair—us queer folks can’t resist leaning into it. Take this classic line: “Can’t you sit straight?” For those of us who are sapphic, the answer is usually, “Nope!”
Maybe you remember being called out in class by a teacher for not sitting “straight.” It’s like we’ve been unintentionally dropping clues to our queerness through our preferred seating arrangements.
And when you really think about it, it’s almost poetic—of course, lesbians can’t sit straight!
Were you around TikTok in 2022 and remember the “sit back down” trend? Let’s make it lesbian now.
Of course lesbians jumped right on this trend when it was making the rounds!
What’s weirder than skeletons?
Lesbian sitting memes also come with their own funny, and sometimes awkward, real-life moments.
Take this story from Reddit user Screamingtennisball, who recalls their high school geography teacher quietly asking, “Are you gay? You sit like a gay person. Not that there’s anything wrong with that! I’m just curious.” Sitting crossed-legged on desks or tucking legs under seats was apparently all the signal needed!
Look, sometimes anything can be “gay culture,” and honestly, we just have to accept it.
From the way we sit to the pop culture icons we collectively adore, queer folks have a way of claiming things as our own.
Take this hilarious meme that features Grace, played by Jane Fonda, from Grace and Frankie; Elena from One Day at a Time, a young Troye Sivan (baby queer energy at its finest), and Agent Mulder from The X-Files, whom fans love to imagine with a not-so-straight backstory.
It’s like an unspoken club where the requirements are simply vibes and sitting weirdly.
No meme list would be complete without the classic alignment chart, and yes, there’s one for queer sitting styles! This one’s for everyone at the intersection of gay, bi, and lesbian identities, each bringing their own unique flavor of “wrong” to the act of sitting.
It’s a playful format that invites everyone to find their spot on the queer sitting spectrum. So, where do you land?
Look, when the world tells you you have to act a certain way — even down the way you sit — sometimes it’s just natural to reject it.
So, what do you think of these lesbian sitting memes? Got a good chuckle? Here’s my take: it’s about rejecting traditional femininity, but it’s also a playful way of signaling that we’re not interested in the male gaze.
Think of it as the unofficial guide to “How to Be Invisible to Men: Just Manspread Like One.”
Happy lesbian sitting!
Rocio Sanchez (any pronouns) is a brand strategist and SEO copywriter who dedicates themself to LGBT+ and POC-led business through digital marketing strategies. Born and raised a Dominican New Yorker, and now based in Amsterdam, they have their own digital marketing agency called Marketing by Rocio. They also host a queer fashion podcast called Transition of Style, based partly on their graduate master’s thesis completed in Paris, where they lived for four years.
