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HER is a dating and community app created by and for queer people. With an active network of queer people, HER is a queer-centric and safe space to find other people with the same interests, values and lived experiences as you, as well as find other queer people to date.

Available on IOS and Android for free.

 

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A place for you to find your queer community

Meeting a range of diverse and queer people isn’t always easy because the world isn’t always a safe space. And no one should have to navigate awkwardly but all important small talk with the potential new best friend/love of their life while being mistreated by those around them. HER knows queer people need safe spaces to connect and has created just that. Queer spaces offer the safety and support to be completely ourselves without fear. That’s what HER profiles are all about. 

HER offers a judgment-free zone where you can find people like you and people who respect you. If you’re queer and looking for anyone – from dykes to sapiosexuals, demisexuals to pansexuals, and so much more  – HER is a place to find other queer people and potentially the one who wants you for you. So head to the App Store or the Play Store and see what happens – you could meet the one.

The black LGBTQ+ community

Finding community is important for all LGBTQ+ people, but especially for QPOC (queer person of color). The world isn’t always understanding or supportive of Black queer love so whether it’s for friendship or you’re looking for the one, it’s vital to find people who understand and support you for all that you are. The HER app has communities you can join specifically for QPOC so you can find your tribe.

It’s no secret that unfortunately in some parts of the LGBTQ+ community, racism is alive and well. Black queer people face unprecedented levels of violence, particularly trans women of color. But we know that Black queer people and trans women of colour have long led the fight for LGBTQ+ rights worldwide. Black queer love is at the centre of the LGBTQ+ community and its history. Sometimes for POC and particularly Black people, you just need to connect with people that get that and who feel these things deeply like you.

Finding queer black love and community

Black queer dating can be challenging, but the 21st century has (mostly) been kind to us, especially when it comes to finding love, community, or whatever it is you’re looking for. Apps have completely revolutionised the way we date, and as QPOC, it’s never been easier to find each other like on HER app.

It’s vital to have people in your life who share your experiences. QPOC sit in the intersections between queerness and Blackness, which is a unique experience that can be difficult for others to relate to. Your love should be celebrated! We rarely get to see Black queer love in the media. If you’re not connected to QPOC communities near you, it’s easy to feel alone and misunderstood by the people around you. If there’s one thing we know, it’s that you’re not alone. There are millions of people like you, and you just need to know where to look.

#WeMetOnHER

Sam & Bronwyn

“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”

Amanda & Rasheeda

“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for the Her App bringing us together.”

Chris & Stephanie

“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away…If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”

 

Queer dating FAQ

Who does queer refer to?

Queer refers to people who are either not heterosexual – i.e. they fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella – and/or not cisgender – they are either trans or non-binary.

It also refers to academic practice and political movement of Queer Theory. This isn’t as complicated as it seems – it’s mainly about “queering” the normal – doing things outside of what’s expected of heterosexual cisgender people from a society built for any by heterosexual cisgender people. 

HER does things differently, as it’s built by queer people for queer people, centring the needs and wishes of queer people seeking to date and meet other likeminded folks. 

What is the difference between queer dating and LGBT dating?

In many ways, queer dating and LGBT dating are one and the same, but LGBT can seem, to many, to be an outdated acronym that only prioritises lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people at the expense of those who identify as many more sexualities or genders that fall out of these relatively narrow categories. 

HER caters to all queer sexualities and all genders – apart from cisgender men – and makes sure that the space you’re meeting other queer or LGBT people is safe and welcoming.

I identify as queer and only want to date other queer singles, how do I date them?

Just as it’s not always easy to find out who is queer, it’s not always so easy to find out who is single, so to find someone who is queer, single and up for dating, all at once, can be quite a challenge! 

That’s why HER is here to make meeting queer singles easier. On the HER app, you can search for other single people and other queer people all in one swoop, as well as explore our diverse community of over 10 million queer folks.

Why is dating as a queer person so hard? Can HER make it easier?

The real-life world can be daunting for a queer person. A lot of public places aren’t entirely safe spaces for those who are all the many sexualities other than heterosexual or are trans or non-binary. 

It can also be tricky to meet people in big exciting cosmopolitan and liberal cities where…young people are so frequently priced out of being able to live their best lives. 

Queer dating is made easier online because of apps like HER that create a safe and super-inclusive space that’s welcoming to all queer people (apart from cis men).

 

What makes HER a great dating app for queer people?

Other dating apps might be made by straight people for all sorts of people, but HER is dedicated to queer people – apart from cis men – and is made by queer people too 🙂

This means that functions and features have been built on the understanding of how queer people might date, not by imposing the way straight and/or cis people date onto queer people.

HER is also committed to providing a safe space for queer people to date and form communities.

Is queer an offensive term?

To some, particularly older folks who’ve been around for long enough to remember when queer was used as a slur by homophobes and transphobes alike, queer can be an offensive term. 

However, there has been a huge effort since the 1980s to reclaim this term. Rather than allow a term that originally was used to refer to things that were odd or broken to also refer to people who aren’t heterosexual or cisgender, these activists spun the concept around. 

How about society needs a bit of oddness, a bit of breaking down and re-organising so that it can be a safer space for people who don’t fit into neat norms?

Queering is about bending the rules of attraction and lifestyle and queer dating is doing the same.