There is nothing that can make you feel more seen and more attacked at the exact same time than a queer meme. Stereotypes of queer dating and relationships aren’t cute coming from straight people, but—coming from us—they are priceless. Every gay knows that feeling when you find a meme that reads you to filth.
Some memes might be more relatable than others, but take what you like and leave the rest! Memes are meant to represent the thoughts and feelings of a specific audience and elicit humor.
The best queer dating memes out there are based on hilariously specific, yet accurate, sweeping generalizations. And while we know that queer dating is not a monolithic experience, it can be funny to make fun of ourselves and queer dating culture as a whole. Here is a roundup of some of the best relatable queer dating memes for a good laugh and sense of solidarity amongst us!
Queer dating memes
Dating as a lesbian can be hard. It usually entails matching with someone on HER, going out to a nice date spot, and then having a slight existential crisis about your own mortality two drinks in on the dance floor. No? Just me and Barbie? Okay cool cool…
There’s nothing like the sweet sound of a prosecco bottle popping open three weeks into a relationship with the new queer love of your life. Lesbians are known for their deep emotional investment and unprecedented skills of inventing super cute anniversaries to celebrate. If this is you and your new wife, cheers!
If you’re in the queer dating world, you might be familiar with the butch/femme dynamic. But did you know that this dynamic is also extremely ethereal, animalistic, and otherworldly? If not, let me introduce you to this meme.
Are you a toppy queer femme with an acrylic nail addiction who loves to switch? If so, check out this hilarious queer dating meme. You have probably come across that awkward moment in the salon when you have to ask the nail tech doing your manicure to keep two of them, on one hand, short. I’ve also heard of some folks doing the latex glove and cotton ball technique, but queer femme nails for the win!
Queer ladies, if you think that it’s okay to wear whatever kinds of shirts you want with no bras that make you feel the most comfortable in your body and affirmed in your gender, you should definitely keep doing that. Girls wearing whatever they want to wear in a cisheteropatriarchy is fire.
If you’ve ever dated in the queer scene, you might have come across the concept of non-monogamy. While some queers do practice non-monogamy, it’s not an inherently “better” or “more evolved” relationship structure than monogamy. Don’t be the guy in the relatable dating meme on the floor getting stepping on for pretending to be chill with polyamory, when you really just want a boo.
Maybe you’re an English major, or maybe you’re a cottagecore Tumblr lesbian who looks like Harry Styles and has a penchant for finding the racy sapphic poetry and professing your love by tagging your crush. If so, this lesbian dating meme might be about you.
It wouldn’t be a queer dating meme dump if we didn’t talk about the extensive hours that lesbian couples spend watching YouTube tutorials in their house to fix an electrical problem that almost certainly requires a professional. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a handy butch, femme, or them, this meme is for you.
If you (like me) were low-key in love with your best friend as a kid, then you might have recently found your old childhood journal that recalls every charm on her charm bracelet in excruciating detail. If not, you might want to read over your childhood journals again.
There is nothing more exciting than falling in love! An inevitable part of falling in love also consists of lurking on the social media profile of the girl you are falling in love with and finding pictures of her and her ex-girlfriend years ago. It’s super chill and no big deal that other people have been in love with the girl you are talking to, right? Right?
Nothing sums up that feeling quite like this iconic femme chihuahua lesbian dating meme.
Nothing says lesbian culture like a good, long, intimate, deep, and unnecessary conversation with your ex. If you are going over to your ex girlfriend’s house for closure, you might as well tell all your friends that you’re back together already. This dating meme had me literally rofl-ing.
Anyone who said long-distance is a reason not to date someone obviously wasn’t a lesbian. There is the harmful stereotype that lesbians will travel any distance to be with the woman they love, and then there’s the lesbian who escaped Russia by boat and sailed to Canada to be with the woman she loves. Can you blame her?
While us queers might be known for our uncanny ability to maintain long-distance love, that doesn’t make it easy. Long-distance sucks, and goodbyes can feel a lot like this. If you’re in a wlw long-distance relationship, this relatable dating meme says it all.
Or maybe you are single and on the apps when you stumble across the profile of a girl who lives at the bottom of the ocean. Anyone got a free ticket on the next submersible?
You know that feeling when you’re a lesbian on a dating app that wasn’t made by and for queer people, and your inbox is full of terrifying unwanted cucumber-shaped messages from cisgender men. Good thing HER exists, and you don’t have to deal with that anymore…
Sometimes, being queer and dating in the real world is like doing a DIY project. You’ve typically only got two tools to get the job done. An effective drill for the project (otherwise known as dating apps) or a less effective hammer (friend of a friend referrals). Choose your weapon.
Sometimes it’s easy to romanticize the past and think back to a simpler time, before we had all the online queer dating apps. Oh right, back then we had dial-up internet that took at least forty-five minutes to get online. The old fashioned way isn’t always the best way. Do yourself a favor, ditch the stigma, and download HER today.
And finally, this last single life meme is for all the solo babes out there who are focused on themselves, prioritizing their well-being, and staying tucked in bed with their cat all night. Just to let you know, as a Cancer sun, I firmly believe that staying in with your pet all night is a super valid excuse to not leave the house. All the more time to swipe right!
Dusty Brandt Howard is a writer & a fighter. He is a trans masculine cultural narrator who builds worlds with words. You can follow his thirst traps on Instagram, his writing on Substack, or find him at your local queer bar in northeast LA.
The cookies that are categorised as "Necessary" are stored on your browser as they are essential for enabling the basic functionalities of the site. We also use third-party "Analytics" cookies that help us analyse how you use this website or store your preferences. These cookies will only be stored in your browser with your prior consent.
You can choose to enable or disable some or all of these cookies but disabling some of them may affect your browsing experience.
Necessary Cookies
Necessary cookies are required to enable the basic features of this site, such as adjusting your consent preferences. These cookies do not store any personally identifiable data.
If you disable this cookie, we will not be able to save your preferences. This means that every time you visit this website you will need to enable or disable cookies again.
Analytics
This website uses Google Analytics to collect anonymous information such as the number of visitors to the site, and the most popular pages. Keeping this cookie enabled helps us to improve our website and understand what content you like the most.
Please enable Strictly Necessary Cookies first so that we can save your preferences!
