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HER is the world’s most loved LGBTQ+ dating & community app. Made for queers, by queers, safety is our priority number one to offer a delightful dating experience for lesbians to connect with other queer women.

Available on IOS and Android for free.

10 MILLION+ QUEER FOLKS

Your next match is a tap away

4.5 STARS ON THE APP/PLAY STORES

Over 35k reviews on the app store

SAFE SPACES & SUPPORT

A dedicated trust and safety team is ready to assist you anytime

QUEER CONVERSATION

Make new friends and share interests in more than 35 HER communities

The way that we live and love

Let’s be honest—online dating can feel like a hetero-normie mess. From the spam of “heys” and “wyds” to the limited profile-building options (like hello, can we get some options outside the gender binary?), it’s rough out there for singles, especially queer folks. And it was precise because of this crushing fact that led Robyn Exton found HER.

As one of the best lesbian dating apps, HER has grown tremendously, with over 10 million users and an evolving array of features for lesbians, queer, non-binary, and trans people to flirt, date, and build community. We’ve done so by breaking the mold of traditional dating apps by giving users tons of ways to express themselves and connect with one another.

For starters, there are dozens of Pride Pins you can add to your profile to proudly show off your identity – from dyke, to lipstick lez, to chapstick lesbian and more. You can also share what your affection styles are like quality time and words of affirmation, or interests like gamer and plant parent—just to name a few.

Join the lesbian community

Built with the understanding of queer relationships in mind, HER doesn’t just have options for dating. You can also chat with each other in communities and add people as friends because we get that sometimes the lines can be blurry (from friendships to hookups and breakups to makeups). Don’t be shy. Find your new favorite people in our active communities like lesbians, trans Women, queer Women of color, body Positive & plus size, and astrology, in addition to other Communities filled with queer people from around the world who are ready to chat and connect.

So, if you’re a lesbian, queer woman, trans, gender non-conforming, or non-binary person looking for anything from steamy hookups to authentic, lifelong connections, it doesn’t get much more queer than this dating app that was specifically built for queer people, by a queer woman. From a groundbreaking idea to the vibrant community it has become today, every step of the way, has and will continue to be built with the diverse needs of queer people in mind.

#WeMetOnHER

Sam & Bronwyn

“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”

Amanda & Rasheeda

“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for the Her App bringing us together.”

Chris & Stephanie

“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away…If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”

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Lesbian dating FAQ

What sets HER apart from other lesbian dating apps?

When Robyn Exton founded HER in 2013, it was out of frustration with the lack of online dating options for lesbians and queer women. Being queer herself, Robyn felt that all the other mainstream dating apps lacked a basic understanding of queer relationships, community, and identity. This void is what propelled her to execute on her vision and create an inclusive, dynamic, and safe dating app for all queer, non-binary, and trans people looking for love and community.

Thankfully, other dating apps have evolved to include things like pronouns and sexual orientation, but HER has been, and always will be, a step ahead. With over 10 million users, over 35 active Communities to join, and evolving features catered for lesbians, queer women, non-binary, and trans people to flirt, find love, and form friendships, all in one convenient place.

How do I find other lesbian singles?

Hold on to your iced coffees, you’ve come to the right place! First, download the HER app, which is available for free on both Android and iOS. Fill out your profile and let folks know who you are and what you’re looking for. Take the extra step to get verified, which only takes a few seconds and lets potential matches know that you’re the real deal.

Next, go to your settings and filter potential matches by sexual orientation, where you can select “Lesbian,” in addition to other sexualities and genders. You can also expand the range of your matches by selecting other attributes to filter by age, fun facts, distance, and more. Then get to explore, and watch as the likes come pouring in. 

Join the Lesbian Community on HER in addition to other Communities that match your interests and identity to boost your chances of meeting potential lesbian partners and friends in your area and around the world.

I recently came out as lesbian, is this app safe for closeted or private individuals?

Absolutely. Whether you’re looking for love, friendships, or simply want to be part of a growing global community of queer people, HER is the place for you no matter where you are in your journey.

For starters, if you want to keep your profile on the DL, there’s an option to go incognito, where only people you like will be able to see your profile. Plus, all community posts are moderated, so you’ll find nothing but open-minded and supportive lesbians and lesbian-friendly people to connect and chat with.

You also have the power to unmatch, block, or report others for being transphobic, misogynistic, or for making HER an unsafe space.

Is HER safer than lesbian dating sites?

HER prioritizes user safety and security at every step of the app. Starting at the beginning of the onboarding process, once you’ve filled out your basic profile information, you get the option to verify your profile. This is a super easy process that takes seconds to complete.

Plus, when everyone joins a Community on HER, they agree to create and share posts that uphold HER’s Community Guidelines, with moderators available online to provide additional support.

HER also gives users the power to unmatch, block, or report others for being transphobic, misogynistic, or generally making HER an unsafe space. A dedicated trust and safety team is ready to assist you anytime