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Mar 09, 2023
We all know finding the perfect sapphic holiday gift for your girlfriend, crush, or that hottie you just matched with on HER can be a struggle! 😩 But we got you. 😉
Whether they’re a total stud, butch daddy, a chapstick lesbian queen, an astrology-obsessed babe, or a WLW in between — we’ve got you covered with the best lesbian gift ideas for all different types of lesbians.
So, come, come, ye sapphics! It’s time to get inspired and add to cart with our lesbian gift guide.
If your beloved butch already has an 11-in-1 pocket knife, consider gifting an eco-friendly, custom-made flask by WellTold. It’s engraved with a map of any location—like where you first met, their hometown, or where you had your first kiss. The options are endless.
Source: GQ, Jaxxon & CultureKings
You can almost never go wrong with a hat, and snapbacks are a timeless choice. For a fresh twist, check out the New Era 9FORTY® K-Frame snapback in black suede—it’s practically black-tie ready (don’t fact-check me). If warmth is key, a Carhartt knit cuffed beanie or a 100% cotton Twill Bucket Hat is always a safe bet.
Chains are another classic gift, so I’ve narrowed it down to three solid options:
*You can definitely go wrong with accidentally getting a stud a snapback with a sports team they despise with a passion (definitely not a fear instilled by true events).
Chances are, if you’ve seen the movie Ghost, you’ve also fantasized about recreating the iconic pottery scene with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore. And now that there are talks of it getting a reboot that isn’t going to be Queer, I think it’s only right that we take matters into our own hands. Cue: a DIY pottery datenight kit for two. Help a femme have her Ghost moment — and put the lesbian spin on it that the reboot deserves.
And if you’re looking to adorn your sexy pottery night with a little something extra, Ghia’s trendy, all-natural, non-alcoholic Apéritif is the perfect companion. More and more people are opting to live sober-curious lives, swapping out ABV for hangover-free alternatives. Ghia’s chic, zero-proof drinks and mixers are a stylish and healthy way to elevate your time together. Plus, let’s be honest, we gays love a spritz.
Source: TikTok, Sadire, The Independent & Mejuru
Do your friends or girlfriend know the “Tummy Hurts” music video? (Of course they do; they’ve practically memorized every frame.) We found the exact Masochists tee she rocks in the video, and they need it in their lives.
A true Renée Rapp fan knows that accessories are key! Help them complete their look with some stylish new rings that will make them feel like a pop star (or at least a pop star’s biggest fan ✨).
Renée Rapp approved: Need I say more? If they’re good enough for our queen, they’re good enough for us. 👑
“I’ve been wearing Mejuri for a couple of years, just kind of on my own volition.”
– Rapp (Source: The Hollywood Reporter)
Source: Etsy, Instagram, Reddit & Ebay
🐴💖 These boots were everywhere at Chappell Roan’s Brixton show. They’ll make your friends stand out in any crowd (even a crowd of Chappell Roan fans 😉).
I found the perfect cap to complete your Chappell Roan-inspired outfit. 💖 This screams “Midwest princess” like baby pink. 👑
Chappell Roan wore this for her Tiny Desk Concert. And I found it. 😍 Channel their inner Chappell and shine bright. Good luck, babes! ✨🎤
Support local businesses and let them get their caffeine or book fix on the go! ☕📚 Plus, it shows you care about the community. 💖
Not only is this tote bag super cute and practical, but it’s also a great way to show off their pride. 🌈 And let’s be real, we all need another tote bag. 😅
Okay, this is peak U-Haul lesbian humor, and they’ll absolutely love it. 😂 Bonus points if you personalize it with your names and the date you moved in together. 😜
Include things like champagne to celebrate, matching mugs for your morning coffee, a funny housewarming card, and maybe even a miniature U-Haul truck toy for a laugh. 🥂🚚😂
Source: The New York Times & Etsy
They’ll love diving into these thought-provoking and often controversial reads. 📚 Plus, it’s a great conversation starter. 😉
This is the perfect way for her to unwind after a long day of dissecting text messages. The lavender scent will calm their nerves, and the cheeky message will make them laugh. 🛀😂
Create a relaxing atmosphere in their home with a diffuser and some calming essential oils like lavender, chamomile, or eucalyptus. It’s a subtle but effective way to help them de-stress. 🌿😌
Guided meditations can be a great way to reduce anxiety and improve focus. There are tons of apps out there with different styles of meditation, so they can find one that works best for them. 🧘♀️📱
Source: Etsy, Plan My Japan, One Green Planet & CNN
Think scratching posts, dangling toys, cozy hideaways, and maybe even a built-in hammock. This is the ultimate cat playground; her kitties will be in heaven. 😻🏰
If your “Professional Cat Herder” friend doesn’t have an automatic cat litter box yet, you’re about to become their FAVORITE person. This thing is a lifesaver. No more scooping poop out of the litter box every day? Yes, please. 🙌
Pro Tip: Take your sapphic gift to the next level by adding a pack of litter box liners and a bottle of odor-eliminating spray. They’ll be singing your praises. 🎶💖
They can carry their furry friend with them wherever they go. 📱😻
Volunteer your time together to help care for cats in need. This is a rewarding experience that will make both of you feel good. 💖🐾
Source: Etsy, First Aid Training & Pro Tool Reviews
This is a cute and relatable way to acknowledge the chaos that often comes with her DIY projects. It’ll look adorable on display in their (slightly wonky) handcrafted bookshelf. 😅🖼️
Fill it with things like bandages, super glue, a mini first aid kit, and maybe even a bottle of wine for when things go really wrong. 🩹🍷
Even the most hardcore DIY lesbian needs a safe place to keep their rings while they’re busy building their empire (or just fixing that leaky faucet). A cute ring holder is a practical and thoughtful gift that adds a touch of sparkle to their workspace.
Source: Threadheads, Ashley Gavin & Etsy
For those moments when they need a little extra time to come up with the perfect witty retort. ⏳
They’ll love laughing along with other people who appreciate a good dose of sarcasm. 🎤😂
These games are perfect for a night in with friends and are sure to bring out her competitive side (and her sarcastic wit). 🃏
Source: Etsy & Google Play
Ensure they never get lost again (or at least not because of a dead phone battery). 🔋
A GPS tracker with a cute keychain
This is a lifesaver for anyone who gets lost easily. Attach it to her keys or bag, and you’ll always be able to find them (or at least her belongings!). Bonus points if the keychain is something quirky and fun, like a tiny unicorn or a sparkly rainbow. 🦄🌈✨
This is essential for anyone who travels or hikes frequently. Even if they lose cell service, they’ll still be able to navigate with ease. 🗺️🗣️
This is a funny and practical gift that will help her orient themselves every time they come home. 🚪
Let’s be real, we could all use a little help sometimes! This gift for sapphics is perfect for letting them belt out their favorite tunes without fear of judgment (or scaring the neighbors). 🎤🎶
Encourage them to embrace their inner rockstar in the one place where everyone sounds amazing: the shower! 🚿🎤 Bonus points if you get one with colorful lights for a true concert experience. ✨
If they’re serious about improving their singing, this is a great way to help them reach their full potential. They can learn vocal exercises, warm-up techniques, and even get feedback on their progress. 🎤💪
Remember: The most important thing is to be supportive and encouraging, even if their singing isn’t exactly Grammy-worthy. Let them know you love them for who they are, even if they can’t carry a tune to save their lives. 💖 After all, laughter is the best medicine (and sometimes the best accompaniment to off-key singing). 🎶
Source: Walmart & Tee Public
Help them create high-quality meme videos with a green screen and professional lighting. They’ll be ready to take over TikTok and Instagram with her hilarious content. 🎬💡
Let them carry their meme obsession everywhere they go with a personalized phone case. It’s a subtle (or not-so-subtle) way to show off their love for internet humor. 📱😂
Go beyond the generic horoscopes and get them a detailed analysis of their birth chart by a professional astrologer. This will give them deep insights into their personality, relationships, and life path. 🌌
Not only is this a beautiful piece of jewelry, but it also taps into their love for all things mystical. Choose a crystal that aligns with their zodiac sign for an extra special touch. 💎
Help them dive deeper into the connection between astrology and queer identity with a book that explores lesbian astrology specifically. 📖🌈
Include things like crystals, essential oils, incense, a journal for recording her astrological observations, and a cozy blanket for snuggling up while reading her horoscope. 🎁✨
Source: Ubuy, She Soho & Penguin Books
Socks, pins, flags, stickers, jewelry… you name it, slap a rainbow on it! This is their time to shine with all the colors of the LGBTQ+ spectrum. 🌈🌈🌈
Pack a bag with essentials like sunscreen, glitter, a water bottle, a fanny pack, and maybe even a mini rainbow flag to wave. They’ll be ready to celebrate their first Pride! 🏳️🌈🎉
Introduce them to the world of LGBTQ+ clubs, art, and culture. It’s a great way to meet new people and feel connected to the community. 🎭🎤
Empower the ‘Baby Gay’ in their life with books that celebrate LGBTQ+ history, culture, and activism. 📚 It’s a great way to introduce them to the community and inspire them to make a difference.
Source: Etsy, Cosmopolitan, MoMA & Enfettered
Introduce them to the world of rope play with a safe and sensual kit that includes soft restraints, instructional guides, and maybe even a blindfold for heightened sensations. Tie them up (with consent, of course!) and explore new levels of intimacy and power dynamics.
Take their kink exploration to the next level with expert guidance and personalized instruction. This unique and empowering experience can help them discover new desires and deepen their connection. 😈
Immerse them in a world of like-minded individuals and explore different kinks and fetishes in a safe and consensual environment. This could be anything from a themed party to a BDSM workshop or a dungeon crawl. 🔥✨
For the sapphic who wants to take things to new heights (literally!), a suspension harness allows for exciting positions and a unique power dynamic. This is definitely for the adventurous couple who trusts each other implicitly.
Source: Conde Nast, The Independent, Siam Seaplane & Michelin Guide
Treat them to a rejuvenating experience at a world-renowned spa with customized treatments, gourmet meals, and breathtaking views. They’ll return feeling refreshed, revitalized, and ready to conquer the world (or at least their next business deal). 🧖♀️✨
Stock their cellar with the finest vintages and impress their guests with their impeccable taste. Bonus points if you hire a sommelier to host a private tasting and educate them on the nuances of each bottle. 🍾🍷
Forget first class; this friend deserves a whole damn plane. Whisk them away to a private island paradise with pristine beaches, crystal-clear waters, and a staff dedicated to fulfilling their every whim. ✈️🏝️💆♀️
Skip the regular dining room and indulge in an intimate culinary journey at the chef’s table. They’ll witness the magic happen firsthand, savor exquisite dishes crafted just for them, and maybe even get a chance to chat with the culinary maestro themselves. 👨🍳✨
Whew! That was a whirlwind of lesbian gift ideas. Remember, the most important thing is choosing a gift that speaks to their unique personality and interests. Show them you care by putting in a little extra thought and effort.
…And if all else fails, there’s always the classic lesbian fallback: a U-Haul and a promise ring. 😂
You’ve got this! 💪✨
P.S. Don’t forget to download HER and connect with amazing LGBTQIA+ women in your area! You might even find the perfect gift-giving inspiration (or your next date 😉) right there in the app. 💖📲
Mook's in charge of the media partnerships at HER, where she's all about boosting queer voices. She makes sure every partnership is real and lively. She's also the go-to for projects in Thailand. Mook's got her hands in a bunch of stuff like testing things on the App Store and Play Store, managing guides on Apple Maps, and setting up in-app events. On the practical side, she keeps an eye on results, works on sales case studies, and takes care of stuff on WordPress.
