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Need a fresh start in love? Here’s a great OkCupid alternative for queer singles

Robyn Exton

Nov 14, 2023

Need a fresh start in love? Here’s a great OkCupid alternative for queer singles

This one is for our friends out there who have tried almost all the mainstream dating apps with no luck in finding their perfect match or even a nice date. With the rise in popularity of online dating, you’d think it might be easier, but depending on the app, the outcome can vary for every user.

Two women looking at the same phone with excitement.

OkCupid is a pioneer in the love-matching world, launched in 2004 as a website and is now being used by 10% of dating service users in the US. But even great things are not for everybody, and if that’s your case, then follow us along to discover the perfect app that will help you find queer cuties in your area.

Hook-up culture and relationships in OkCupid

Casual relationships have existed for most of human history in one way or another, but the way we perceive them has evolved. If you think about it, now it’s pretty normal to know about your friend’s no-strings-attached situationship that helps keep things “simple.”

Dating apps have become an interesting tool for finding a life partner, hook-ups, and potential one-night stands.

But don’t worry, love is not dead! Compared to other mainstream apps, 75 % of OkCupid’s users are looking for a serious relationship, which is fantastic! 

So, what if you’re gay and looking for new friends? Or a casual fling? Even for a soulmate? Being queer in heteronormative spaces can give us a slight disadvantage when it comes to finding what we’re looking for, and maybe traditional platforms just don’t cut it.

Online dating for the LGBTQIA+ community

What it’s like hittin’ up the dating apps as a queer person? Well, just like our cis-straight pals, we’re out here swiping left and right, checking out profiles, and shooting our shots with folks who catch our eye. Messaging and chatting – it’s all the same deal on the surface.

Actually, a survey from the Pew Research Center found that 55% of LGBTQIA+ people have used a dating app at some point, compared to 28% of their hetero peers.

But, here’s the kicker – some stuff’s a bit different in our world. First off, finding visibility and representation can be a bit of a hurdle. Some apps don’t really cater to all forms of gender and orientation, which can make it trickier for us to find a match.

Safety’s a bigger deal, too, especially if you’re not out or you’re in a spot where being LGBTQIA+ isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. And unfortunately, some of us might run into some not-so-nice stuff, like discrimination or harassment. It’s a rough deal, but it’s real. 

That’s why it’s important to create online safe spaces for this lovely rainbow-colored community, and that’s where HER comes in.

HER: the best OkCupid alternative for you

If you’re looking for a dating app with everything the LGBTQIA+ community needs, HER is here to save the day!

This is not your average platform, though. HER goes above and beyond to create the most organic experience possible within the online dating world. Of course, you can swipe left and right, planning your next first date or spicy encounter, but you can also join fabulous in-app communities and chat with others about your favorite TV show or niche hobby. It makes it the perfect alternative for those who are simply tired of the heteronormative dynamics in mainstream apps. We have to give them credit for being more inclusive with every update, but what’s better than a place for gay folks by gay folks? That’s right, nothing! (Except for new episodes of that one canceled Netflix series you loved, that’d be pretty cool).

What makes HER unique?

Joining HER has many incredible perks, like:

  • Being one of our 13M+ lovely queer users 💁
  • Meeting LGBTQIA+ individuals near you or any city of your preference 📍
  • Over 30 inclusive forums to connect with people alike 👭
  • Safe messaging and community moderators 🛡️
  • Fully customizable user experience 🎨

Being part of our community means you’re leaving your love life to the gay pros, who will always ensure your protection and comfort while you slay the dating scene, honey.

#WeMetOnHER: Real-life love stories

From the apps to the aisle – Sam & Brownyn

“It all started with a hello, and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”

Love at first swipe – Amanda & Rasheeda

“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she… I am so grateful for HER bringing us together.” 

A match from fate – Chris & Stephanie

“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away… If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”

So now you know it! HER is an excellent alternative to other popular dating apps like OkCupid, Tinder, Hinge, etc. Our app has a space for each and every one of you cuties, and we’re ready to help you find exactly what you’re looking for, whether that’s a new BFF, a partner for life, or someone to help you include more cardio in your life. 🔥

Sign up for free and find out how we offer the best and safest online dating experience for the LGBTQIA+ community!

Robyn Exton

Robyn is the CEO & Founder of HER. Find her on Twitter.

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