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May 01, 2019

  • Sexting can be a wonderful way to get to know someone and learn about their turn ons at a safe distance. Sexting can also be used to spice up an existing relationship or keep the juices flowing between dates.

    If you’re brand new to sexting, practice with a sexting chatbot called Slutbot, which was created for all genders including non-binary.

    Here are 4 categories of sexting designed to help you come up with good examples on your own:


    Flirtation is perfect for getting to know someone new. Here are some Flirtation-style sexting examples:

    “I like your profile pic. It makes you look like you have a secret.”

    “I’m in bed. Want to give me something to think about as I fall asleep?”

    Flirtation style sexting can certainly escalate to more explicit styles. It can also stay light and sweet, too. The key is for both of you to be on the same page about what feels comfortable and exciting.


    Fantasy-style sexting is all about telling a story or collaborating on a shared scene. Fantasies are a perfect way to assess someone’s tastes and desires, while also learning about what they don’t like. Here are some Fantasy style examples:

    A: Can I tell you what I want to do with you next time we get together?

    B: Sure.

    A: I bought new massage oil. I want to lay you down in front of the fireplace and give you a full body massage. How does that sound to you?

    B: Great.

    A: What else would you like me to do to you?


    Memory style sexting is great when you already have a sexual history to pull inspiration from. Here are 2 examples pulling from your shared sexual history:

    A: Remember that trip to Maui?

    B: I loved that trip.
    A: You looked so hot as you held me on the balcony while the sun set. I wanted you so badly I felt like I could burst.


    A: Thanks for the great sex last night.

    B: What was your favorite part?

    A: Probably when you pulled my hair just before you came.

    Task / Requesting

    Finally, there’s Task/Request sexting. This is particularly good for people who enjoy playing with power-dynamics in their sex lives or are service-oriented in general. The tone used is based on the way your partner likes hearing or sharing commands.

    A: Did you get the package I sent you?

    B: I did.

    A: I want you to put them on and send me a selfie.

    Sexting is an opportunity to be playful and flirtatious while communicating likes/dislikes, desires, and expectations. For more sexting inspiration, try out 2 sexting styles: “Slow & Gentle” or “Hot & Sexy” with Slutbot, a sexting chatbot. To start sexting with Slutbot, text SLUTBOT to 415-212-6448 or learn more here.

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