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Tea with Auntie: Best Bi's

Feb 18, 2020

Tea with Auntie is a bi-weekly advice segment. Have questions you want Auntie to answer? Share your questions here:

I am a bisexual female who has just found out that a close friend is also bi. We are great friends, telling each other everything and we really like each other but not sure if it would be in a romantic way. So, I was wondering what would happen if I were to ask her to be “friends with benefits”? Or is that just a no go zone? – Laine, 51

Auntie: Oh, those friendship thoughts. I know those well. You join a new friend group, found out the someone else falls on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and your first thought goes along the lines of “is this love?”. It’s completely normal to have these feelings, hell, it’s so hard to find other LGBTQ+ people to date that when one appears as a friend we have hope that it could be more. You’re grown, and if you all are talking and telling each other everything then maybe you have an idea as to what your friend is after. And if it’s potentially friends with benefits, I say shoot your shot. As long as you are respectful, and are ready for the potential that this person says no then go for it.

Community, what’s your opinion? Sound off in the comments.

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