Tea with Auntie: You've Been Played

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Went on my first date, its been several years. I orchestrated the date, to include all the things that make HER happy/her faves. I finally asked HER on a date, after eight years of platonic “hanging out” dates. I rented her dream car (Lincoln Nautilus) to pick her up in and the (Campagna T-Rex) to cruise the strip. Chilled for the evening, at her fave place (beach, fave spot), grilled her fave meal (she loves my cooking), gave her special gifts (duration of the date) – Finale: lady bug, heart shapes, ground bloomers, and wheelie fireworks; also Chinese sky lanterns filled with affirmations (I read to her – mostly whispered in HER ear) that I wrote on rose petals and explained that I was releasing/speaking how I feel about her into the universe. We danced to her faves (via personal playlist). The night ended very, very well; we shared confessions, expectations, spooning, kisses, and a little petting. Drove her to work in the morning and haven’t heard from her since. Absolutely nothing! I waited 36 hours before trying to call HER again, after calling several times that day. What do you think could be going on? Did I do too much too soon? Should I do anything else or leave the next move on HER? Was it an overkill? – AunyCya, 50

Auntie: I already need a second cup for this tea you just spilt. I just want to point out the initial – 8 YEARS OF “hanging out” DATES. Honey, no. After 8 years, this incredibly thought out date should have been a proposal. It sounds like she was into it, but I think she realized that this could’ve been a proposal aspect too. What kept it from moving into something years sooner? Why all of a sudden was this the “first date”? What made you decide to go all out for this occasion? Right now I have more questions than answers. Clearly something was off, and maybe they truly weren’t ready for any commitment – hence the ghosting. That’s the best answer Auntie has, because just reading that made me tired!

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