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Tea with Auntie: Own your expectations

Sep 20, 2019

Tea with Auntie is a bi-weekly advice segment. Have questions you want Auntie to answer? Share your questions here:

I have never been in a relationship. I really only came out a year ago or so but with moving and changing jobs locations even after I knew what I wanted I had no time to find it. Being on Her I feel like the only people who are interested in me are out of my age range, only interested in hooking up, or emotionally immature. I grew up in a family that was very unhealthy so I just want to find a normal human willing to be friends and maybe more. Is my problem my lack of experience? Are my expectations too high? I’m finally in a stable place career wise, I want my romantic life to fall into place too. I feel like there’s some secret everyone else knows. Help?Sarrah, 25

Auntie: Oh Sarrah, oh Sarrah. My one major piece of advice I am going to give you is this…NEVER EVER say that you have too high of expectations. As womxn, we don’t speak up enough about what we want and how we want it. You are recognizing your background, and thriving in spite of it. You don’t have time for these people who aren’t going to enhance your life. Plus, you have your shit together – that’s more experience than most people have by your age, let alone in life. Don’t rush and don’t stress, you will find that person that is worth your time and energy. For now, do you and the person that is ready to be on your level will appear.

Any advice that you have for Sarrah? Share them in the comments.

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