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Why HER is one of the best bisexual dating apps?

HER is the world’s most loved LGBTQIA+ dating & community app. Made for queers, by queers, safety is our priority number one to offer a delightful dating experience for bi+ or bicurious women to connect with other folks.

Available on iOS and Android for free.

13 million+ queer folks

Including 1M active bisexual and bi-curious people to click with

4.5 stars on iOS and Android

Featured on Apple Editor's Choice

Safe spaces & support

A dedicated trust and safety team is ready to assist you anytime

Queer conversation

Make new friends and share interests in more than 35 HER communities

Connect with queer people

Imagine a place where you can safely connect with other bisexual and bi-curious women all in one app – that’s HER. 

Instead of spending countless hours on mainstream dating apps only around heterosexual couples (looking at you, unicorn hunters) looking for a third person that never seems to have what you’re looking for, it’s time to join a community of other women-loving women who want the same things as you!

HER is a dating and community app designed by queer women for queer women, especially for those who want to finally match with like-minded people for friendship and love. You’ll feel right at home. That means there are plenty of bi, lesbian, trans, and non-binary people right at your fingertips when you’re in the mood to chat.

Since the app is inclusive of all sexualities, you’ll never have to worry about explaining yours to anyone 🙂

 

Match with local bi women online

It’s no secret that genuinely connecting with other bisexual women on dating apps always seems like such a rare occurrence. You know, about as likely as finding a magical unicorn! So, what gives?

The good news is that HER is an inclusive bisexual dating app and also for all of the LGBTQIA+ community! When it comes to the B part, bisexual visibility matters. There are over 1M bisexual and bi-curious women and over 13 million queers on the app.

You can find local and international women from all over the world united by their bisexuality and safely be yourself right from the start. There’s nothing quite as refreshing as connecting with other women-loving women who’re looking for the same thing. 

It’s a beautiful thing when you don’t have to try to explain your sexuality right out of the gate. And truthfully, there’s no other place that you’ll find so many gorgeous queer ladies gathered in one place.

We met on HER!

Sam & Bronwyn

“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”

Amanda & Rasheeda

“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for HER  bringing us together.”

Chris & Stephanie

“We swiped right even though we lived 120 miles away…If I had to do it all over again, I would. I found my best friend on HER.”

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Bisexual dating FAQ

How does dating as a bisexual person work?

10 years ago, Katy Perry wrote a song about kissing a girl and liking it while also having a boyfriend. The world went insane. We’ve come a long way since then with way more support for us queers. But somehow, the bisexual community still gets backlash from both sides!

We all know the controversies: “Pick a side”, “it’s just a phase”, “bisexuality is just an excuse to be promiscuous”, etc. But while these still might be true for some, they’re definitely not true for all.

Bisexual dating can be full of love, affection, and sex when with the right person, no matter what gender you date! And just like any other sexual orientation, relationships and dating can be hard. While you probably won’t find cis-men on the HER app, you’ll find a heck of a lot of amazing queer women who’d love to talk to you.

Hopefully, you’ll find the one for you on HER!

Why is bisexual dating so hard?

If straight folks and lesbians thought they had it bad, the swipe fatigue is real when it comes to dating – especially because it’s hard to find dating apps made for bisexual people,  that understand what you’re looking for.

How could you possibly hope to connect with other queer gals in a sea of men who keep flooding your inbox because they’re curious if you’d like to meet their girlfriend? If you’re looking for that sort of thing, more power to you! But most of us face a major letdown with the hetero apps out there.

The fact of the matter is that most apps simply aren’t geared toward the LGBTQIA+ crowd, especially when it comes to the B part… Bisexual invisibility is still a thing — even more so when it comes to bisexual dating sites and apps.

On HER, whether you’ve got your eye on that gorgeous femme from Norway, that cute tomboy from England, or a girl from your hometown, all it takes is one message.

How should I start?

If you want to meet other bisexual singles, all you have to do is download our free bisexual dating app, and you can instantly start matching and chatting with other bisexual and bicurious women and other queer folx from around the world.

On HER, you can see who’s online at the same time and spark up a conversation about this year’s pride, the newest queer TV shows, or swap coming out stories — whatever floats your boat.

Also, you may add pride pins that explain who you are/what you’re looking for, or even choose to go incognito, so no one can see you unless you like them first!

That means there’s no more need for picking up chicks in queer bars, hitting on the cute barista at your favorite coffee shop (that you’re not even sure is queer), or sliding into that lesbian’s DMs on Instagram. 

What should I do if I don’t feel valid?

Bisexuality is not a box to fit into but a doorway to discovering more about your authentic self! Although there are many misconceptions about being bi, bisexuality is a valid and real identity that many people embrace.

Our communities make it easy for you to find your people. You’ll never have a shortage of people to talk to because HER is full of intriguing LGBTQIA+ people from around the world.

You can chat and share your experiences with other people who stand for the same things as you, like equality and inclusivity (the chat rooms are monitored at all times, so you never have to worry about creepy messages from straight dudes).

It’s the perfect place to connect with like-minded women who are looking for everything from friendship to dating to love.

Can I use HER to make friends?

For sure! So many of our users join HER for similar reasons. That’s why we have an ‘Add Friend’ option on profiles so you can build your community of people.

Bisexual dating apps, while obviously great for dating, can be just as integral in finding people who get you and help you create a community around you. 

If you move to a new city or visit a new town, HER can be a great way to find out what’s going on nearby, get a taste of the queer scene there, and meet new people.

Even if you’re just at home, there are always new people you haven’t met and new things to experience right on your doorstep. Our app specifically also has communities purely for making friends, having conversations about many different topics, and finding your niche.

Is HER safe for closeted individuals?

Coming out is a beautiful experience, but it might be hard. It is hard to step outside of the norm that society forces on us, and in some cases, it can be unsafe. We have many users who join HER to discover themselves while keeping themselves safe in their home environments.

Finally being able to safely chat with other queer people, including bi-curious women, make friends, and even matches is often a healing and rewarding experience for our users.

You can do it all without coming out. We offer the option to go incognito, where only people you like will be able to see you – allowing you to use the app’s full features with an extra measure of safety. It’s all on your terms.

There are several options to choose from to keep you secure and help you feel comfortable.