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Le glossaire officiel de l’argot lesbien de HER

Robyn Exton

Avr 28, 2021


AFAB signifie « assignée femme à la naissance ». C’est une façon pour les personnes transgenres d’identifier le sexe qui leur a été assigné à la naissance, afin de le distinguer de leur genre. Ce terme peut être utilisé par des personnes trans masculines ou des personnes non-binaires.


Agenre signifie littéralement « ne pas avoir de genre ». Certaines personnes agenres le décrivent comme une absence de genre, tandis que d’autres utilisent le terme « neutre en termes de genre ».


Androgyne est un terme large qui se réfère au choix de style d’un individu. Une personne androgyne se présente au monde d’une manière qui n’est pas définie par « ressembler à une fille » ou « ressembler à un garçon ».

Bébé lesbienne

Une bébé lesbienne est une lesbienne qui vient de faire son coming out. Elles sont souvent  jeunes et libres, mais encore trop effrayées pour avoir des relations sexuelles pour le moment.


« Bicurieux(-euse) » signifie que vous êtes en train d’explorer la bisexualité pour la première fois. Vous êtes un peu le Christophe Colomb de la bisexualité !


Bigenre est une identité de genre où les personnes s’identifient à deux ou plusieurs genres, ressentant généralement un mélange de masculin et de féminin en même temps.

Bull Dyke

Part of the lesbian slang, derived from dyke. Often used for people who present masculine, butch, or androgynous. Sometimes also used in a disparaging way, mostly by cis folks.

Lesbienne Butch

Une lesbienne butch est quelqu’un qui a un style ou une énergie plus masculins. Leurs vibes dégagent généralement une forte sexualité.


A celesbian is a celebrity in the lesbian world. They can be an A-lister like Ellen or as D-list as a former cast member of The Real L Word. (>read more)

Chapstick Lesbian

A chapstick lesbian is not quite a lipstick lesbian but not quite a butch either. They’re strong, but their lips are as soft as down pillows. (>read more)

Refouler (Coming Out)

Cela fait référence à toute personne Queer qui ne dévoile pas publiquement son orientation sexuelle ou son identité de genre au monde, qui garde son identité de genre encore dans un Back Room. Mais pas le genre de Back Room qui pourrait transporter une femme au septième ciel… 😉


En résumé, les personnes demi-sexuelles n’éprouvent pas d’attirance sexuelle à moins d’avoir une connexion émotionnelle avec quelqu’un. Cette connexion peut également être intellectuelle.

Diesel Dyke

A diesel dyke is a lesbian who loves femmes, fast cars, and wearing a sweaty bandana in their back pocket at all times. (>read more)

Drag King

A drag king is a person who performs in a form of hyper-masculine or gender-bending drag. They are the unsung heroes of the drag world. (>read more)


A dykon is a dyke icon. It can be a famous lesbian, aka a celesbian, or a straight woman dykes worship, i.e. Cate Blanchett or Natasha Lyonne. (>read more)

Femme Lesbians

A femme lesbian is a lesbian who is more feminine-leaning in style and energy. They actually know how to walk in heels — even if it’s just kitten heels. (>read more)

Futch Lesbian

A futch is a queer woman or non-binary person who is both “femme” and “butch.” (>read more)


Genderfluid people have a gender identity that changes, sometimes regularly depending on the day or their mood, or sometimes more gradually. (>read more)


Genderqueer, similar to non-binary, is a term used by people who don’t fit neatly into either male or female categories. (>read more)

Gold Star Lesbian

A gold star lesbian is a lesbian who has never had sex with any other gender aside from women. If they’re using this term, they’re also probably 19. (>read more)

High Femme

A “high femme” is an uber-feminine lesbian who lives to pamper themselves. They love makeup, never miss a mani/pedi, and have a 28-step skincare routine. (>read more)

Lesbian Twitter

Lesbian Twitter is a collection of the funniest, smartest, but mostly saddest dykes on the internet. (>read more)

Lesbian Bed Death

An urban legend that looms over every lesbian relationship. It is the idea that lesbian couples generally have less sex than gay males or straight couples. But is that true? (>read more)


Abbreviation of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning (or: queer), intersex.


Yep, it’s similar! It’s an abbreviation of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning (or: queer), intersex, AND asexual (or allied)


Again! Now with Pansexuals at the end.

Lipstick Lesbian

A lipstick lesbian is generally the hyper-femme (lipstick-wearing) one in a gay relationship. See also: skincare lesbian. (>read more)


Non-binary is an umbrella term for gender identities that are outside of the traditional male/female gender binary, including bigender, agender, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, two-spirit, or genderfluid. (>read more)

Pillow Princess

An endearing term for one who gets the most pleasure while in a more relaxed, horizontal post during sex. (>read more)


“QTPOC” stands for “queer and trans people of color.” See also: QPOC, aka queer people of color. (>read more)


Sapphic refers to anything related to the Greek poet Sappho, who wrote about her attraction to “lesbians” from the island of Lesbos. It also refers to any woman or non-binary person who is gay af. (>read more)

Sapphic Flag

The sapphic flag is a pink, orange, and white flag dedicated to sapphics, aka gay, bi, and pansexual women. It should be waved proudly and gayly. (>read more)


A girl who claims to be a lesbian or a bisexual, but in reality, she’s only with guys.

Skincare Lesbian

A high femme taking care of themselves is their full-time job

Soft Butch

A soft butch is a slightly more feminine (or “softer”) version of a butch lesbian. They’re tough but tender — like the perfect chicken nugget. (>read more)

Sporty Dyke

A sporty dyke is a lesbian who loves them some sports. Or at the very least, they look good in athleisure. (>read more)

Stem Lesbian

A “stem lesbian” is a Black or Latinx queer person who is both a “stud” and “femme.” The best of both worlds! (>read more)

Stone Butch

Womxn who is strongly masculine in character and dress. Displays female butchness or traditional « masculinity » as opposed to a high femme.

Stud Lesbian

A “stud” refers to a butch woman or non-binary person who is Black or Latinx — not white dykes on TikTok. (>read more)


A tomboy is usually a young woman who dresses with a more “masculine” style. They tend to be gay/queer women (specifically butches/soft butches) in the making. (>read more)

Top, Bottom, and Switch

While the terms top, bottom, and switch were created by and for gay men, they are becoming more frequently used amongst LGBTQ+ women and non-binary people. They can be pretty confusing because they can refer to someone’s sexual preferences, level of dominance, role in their relationships, or all of the above. (>read more)

Types of Lesbians

Types of lesbians include butches, studs, futches, femmes, high femmes, chapstick lesbians, lipstick lesbians, baby dykes, astrology lesbians, non-binary dykes, YouTube lesbians, and lesbians who really want a girlfriend. (>read more).


“Two-spirit” refers to a person who identifies as having both a masculine and a feminine spirit, sometimes referred also as a « third gender ». It’s a form of non-binary identity. (>read more)

Wildfang Lesbian

A Wildfang lesbian is a lesbian who owns 8,000 button-ups and all of them are Hawaiin print. They also probably have a sleeve and a septum piercing, but that’s not required. (>read more)


A term used to avoid the spelling woman (which contains and derives from the word men). Replacing the y with the x means including trans womxn, womxn of color, and nonbinary folks.

Robyn Exton

Robyn is the CEO & Founder of HER. Find her on Twitter.

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